Am I really being a brat?

Question

ok well my mom constantly calls me a brat. She doesn't see what happens though! I have two little sisters and they are constantly being brats towards me, then angels towards my mom. such as this morning. We have company coming and so we're cleaning the house. we have a guest room and bathroom(that i tend to use since its a king sized bed in there and i have a queen...so my friends and i have sleepovers in there and the bathroom is just used) so i was cleaning the mirror and both my sisters(younger) walk in and start taunting me. so i said very calmly, please go out of the bathroom; im cleaning it. they reply in a rude way, noo. so i said with frustration in my voice...go out of the bathrooom im cleaning it and i get the same reply. so then i end up screaming GET OUT OF THE BATHROOM! and my mom came up cause both my sisters started screaming and crying at the tops of their lungs. and she smacked me really hard on the face. she said i was being a brat. if either of my sisters had done t

Answer 1

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1)No your not a brat, you just need to tell your mother what happened and tell her not to slap you because it hurts really bad.

2)When your sisters are doing something to annoy you then ignore them, if they start yelling at you then say what?

If they something rude then just say ok then tell your mom.

3)If your mom is really being this mean to you then go in your room and cry, its ok to let your emotions out. Its not ok for your mom to slap you or call you a brat. Tell your mom that that is not ok and it hurts really bad.

Please do something about this b/c this is NOT OK for your mom to do. I think in some way this is child abuse.

Answer 2

try to calmly explain to your mom what is going on. also add that smacking you really hurts and is not going to get you guys anywhere. it is a form of child abuse. she probably plays favorites and sides with the younger children because well... they are little, and so she tends to be softer on them. no you are not being a brat, you are trying the best you can. you are right. she is not being fair. tell her that! good luck!

Answer 3

your mother should never smack you in the face! thats horrible... smack her back  to see how she likes it!

Answer 4

Sigh, that is what happens when you have younger siblings. They are always right, you are always wrong. You just have to live with it... If you truly believe you are right, stand up to your mom until she recognizes it. You have to stand up to your parents at some point in your life.

Answer 5

no. if i were you, i'd smack the skittles out of your sisters. i had kids like that. tell your mom what happened. if she doesn't believe you, go sleep at a friends house for the night. and some other nights. :)

Answer 6

you're not being a brat,you're just frustrated.My daughter is going thru a similar situation at her mother's ,I know it's not easy but you need to try and ignore them,then hopefully they will get bored and leave you alone.Most parents expect the older sibling to be more mature and not banter with the little ones.It's messed up that your mother smacked you for no apparent reason(my opinion).You could  try ,at a less hectic time of the day to talk to her and let her know that your trying to help out,but the little ones seem to know she will take ther side and try to egg you on and let her know that next time rather than yell at them you will walk away and ask her (calmly)to get them out of your hair or you will not be able to complete your task.This may not be much help,but I hope your situation gets better and I pray that her smacking you is not a common thing in your home.

Answer 7

Tough questions.  

Well if little sisters want leave you be then they have to work.  Instead of getting upset with them , try to use reverse psycology on them.  I'm so glad ya'll are here, Now ya'll can help me.  2 things will happen at this point, they will either help or they will scat b/c they don't want to help.  This works very well for my son.  I ask him to do something and he disappears and doesn't come back.  

Now how to deal with mom.  You tread lightly.  Try going up to her when she is not busy and ask if you can talk.  Moms tend to get all stressed out b/c of the fighting and sometimes don't take the time 2 listen to both sides.  You need to talk with her and try to be as grown up about it as possible.  Don't have a talk with her until after company leaves and she has some down time.  Just let her know that you feel like you wasn't given a fair shot. Let her know what all you do around the house and realize that she probably does 10 times that amount.  Don't make it sound like you do everything and nobody else does anything.  I'm sure that wouldn't be true. ( could be but probably not) .   Chances are she will come and apologize to you before you have a talk with her.  She probably feels really bad and if she comes to you then you need to get all your frustations out in the open.

Answer 8

>> 1.am i really being a brat?

In the situation you described, I don't think you were being a brat.  I can understand you having to get a point across by yelling when your younger sisters refuse to listen to you.  But there's a better way to handle it...

>> 2.how should i handle the sister situation?

Try not to yell at your sisters anymore.  In similar situations like the one you described, if they refuse to listen to you, then go to your mom and tell her that you don't want to yell at your sisters, but they are not listening to your requests.  Then ask if she can please help you.  I'm assuming your mom will remedy the situation for you at this point, but if she doesn't...then go back and yell at your sisters, and when your mom shows up tell her you didn't have any other choice. :)

>> 3.how should i handle the mom situation?

I don't know what sort of relationship you have with your mom, but if you're willing, try printing out the entire question you posted here (without the answers).  Go to your mom, and ask her if you can get her opinion on something.  Then give her the printout and see how she responds.  Like others who posted here, I am a little concerned about the fact that she slapped you, since that IS a form of child abuse, and much different from spanking.  If you think your mother will slap you again if she reads the printout, then don't give it to her.

Best of luck!

Answer 9

It really makes me mad that people always sides the younger ones becuase they are little.  In my house it never worked that way.  I am the youngest of two and me an my sister would always fight.  Most of the time I was the instigator so my parents aknowledge that.  I was always getting scolded but I don't remember if they scolded her.  They did when she started it but when we got older she started to lay off but she would never talk to me that much.  She would just tell me kind of sternly and I would yell a her really ugly.  I was the one that got yelled at and not her.  I don't know if my dad or mom ever talked to her in private about that she should be more of a friend and that was the reason why I lashed out at her.  Later on my sister got a job and my lashing toned down a bit and she would buy a lot of stuff for her and my dad would lecture her on how she should try to pay more attention to me and that one day she is going to need me.  Now my parents complain about her being selfish and I stopped being a brat with her.

Answer 10

yup

Answer 11

ahh the joys of being a older sister. I have a younger sister too and when we were little and living at home she used to drive me crazy. I'm sorry you're going through this but I don't think there's much you can do other then praying that they grow up soon. you could try talking to your mom or just controlling your responses better. sorry I'm not more help.