Am I really narrowminded???

Question

My friend-a guy-and I were listening to Opie and Anthony on the radio while we were driving and I didn't mind it until they were calling a woman on the show a "boring c--t". I was getting more and more upset about it, and realized that's one of my friend's obvious influences in why he can be so sexist and creepy sometimes. I said I didn't want to listen to it because I was completely offended. He was saying I was too narrowminded and took it too personal. I thought about it, am I really narrowminded for feeling that way? And shouldn't I take it personally when Opie and Anthony call women derogatory names on a regular basis? I am a woman after all.

Answer 1

Those two a.holes were thrown off the air in Philadelphia and fired.  Bet they'll be fired in your market as well.  No, you have every right to feel degraded and offended.  They're pigs (no offense to pigs).

Wanna make a splash?  write to their advertisers and complain that you won't buy their products again because they advertise on O&A.  Convince 10 friends to do the same and the advertisers will sit up and take notice.

Answer 2

sometimes I love that show and sometimes I turn it off. You had every right to be offended. That word should be stricken from the english language entirely.  

Answer 3

Apparently, for some men, "narrowminded" means you don't like bigots.

With friends like that, who needs to visit the zoo?

Answer 4

I abhor that word. It makes me sick to the pit of my stomach. You're definitely not narrow minded. I would have turned the radio off myself.

Answer 5

No, you respect people and I admire you for it.  I'm glad you were offended.  What is the value of calling a person after a sexual part?

You are not narrow minded, you are in fact, very broad minded and respect people.  Well done.

Anybody can swear.  It's easily done - you open your mouth, and cause offense.  That's it.  Nothing clever, nothing good.

Answer 6

you are narrowminded because they were offending women,but I bet you would like it if they were women offending men.

Answer 7

I think you are too sensitive and been programmed to be offended by anything you find you do not agree. I call this syndrome "specific indignation". Since the word offends you you believe you have a right to say that it degrades. Many would feel it does not. There are plenty of words in our language I could be offended by if I put myself into a mindset to be so. Therefore, you are narrow minded and maybe a little self righteous.  

Answer 8

I think women are equal to men. So they should be able to be just as thick skinned as men, it's okay to be offended by something, but you don't have the right to think anyone should care if you are.

Answer 9

This issue can be considered two equally relevant ways.

1) If someone makes a habit of calling women derogatory names, it is a problem and no different than continuously labeling men in derogatory ways. I would say that you are correct at being offended and perfectly normal for you to have the feelings you do...

2) How much should we let the ignorance of others cause us to be offended. Many consider indifference to be the opposite of many of the human emotions...an indifference to providing a response of emotion at all. Along these same lines, how much 'humor' is too much humor... 'to take offense at all forms of humor' vs 'to find everything humorous no matter how conventionally offensive it is'.

Considering that most people do not fall on one extreme or the other, one must consider how much and how often they should be offended... and this is an individual decision for you to make and should I repeat the common concept of "choose your battles wisely"?

If you are asking for my individual opinion, instead of the above, I would be offended if it was a habit... yet I 'try' to separate an individual's specific action from the individual... because we know that no one is perfect. Obviously, this friend must have something good about his character for you to be around him.

Answer 10

There are 3 billion women. If YOU feel offended because of what some woman was called you have a problem. I never felt the need to stand up for mens rights because of what some guy was called on tv.

Answer 11

You are not narrow minded. Men have to be told that it is not okay to verbally degrade women in the name of humor. That is a horrible thing to say about anybody.

Answer 12

Actually, you were a bit narrowminded, but it was not wrong for you to feel a little offended.

The thing is men vary between other men, and those feelings toward women are only shared by a fraction or percentage of men.  Not all men feel that way, so don't hold it against all men.  Keep an open mind, and know that what you were hearing on the radio was only an opinion and feeling of some men and not all men.

When I hear women talk to other women on how stupid men are, it makes me feel bad and also offends me a little bit, but I'm also intelligent enough to know that it is only their opinion and a bias based on their personal experiences.  Not all women live the same lives, so they have different views or perspectives on things.  The same applies to men.  Some of us men very much like women and have been around nice women as family or friends, but some men also are around a lot of women who give them bad impressions or provide negative influences throughout their lives.  You have to be emphathetic and take each person's life experiences into consideration.  We are not all the same.

Answer 13

As a man i will tell you the truth about yourself, Your friend is being disrespect full to all women, Lose him he is not a friend worth having, Your self respect is never to be played with

Answer 14

your feelings are definitely justified. and your "friend" should be more than ashamed of himself for allowing a radio personality dictate his everyday persona. and even more ashamed of himself for telling you that you are narrow-minded, I'm sure that if the scene was switched around and women on this radio show where constantly ragging on a man then his feelings would be different.  

Answer 15

No, you are not narrowminded.  You recognise that this isn't just terrible manners, but its incredibly misogynist.  In most other countries this S***e would never be allowed to hit the airwaves.  Its abominable.  What is wrong with you people that you find this garbage interesting or entertaining?  Its NOT.  Any radio station that airs this c**p should be fined, and the money given to women's shelters. Of course the  perpetrator(s) should be fired.

Answer 16

You're not narrowminded at all. If the DJ was using such a derogatory term for a woman as the word you mentioned, it's understandable that you might not want to listen to it.  

Answer 17

ok... i never herd opei an anthony an dont no that show... but u certanly did the right thing sticking up for women....  if they were talking down on women like that they have no buzness being on the radio...   an u dont need some misogemist jerk like that for a so called frend....