Am I really that weird?

Question

I've always been a bit socially awkward, which is ok with me, most of the people I get along with are equally strange. However, sometimes someone I'm talking to will say "you're so weird" after I've said something and I'll have no idea why. Lately it's been happening more often with one particular person, which, considering the situation, could just be some paranoia on his part. I'm not sure, tho. One example is I asked him once if he'd been sad that past weekend. I tried asking at the time but he was kinda hard to talk to so I waited and then I wanted to double check and when I asked he was like "why are you asking me that? that's weird." and we got into a thing about it. Also he'd had a fight with a friend that he told me about like a few weeks ago and I had seen them together since so I asked if they were friends again and he was like "why are you asking me that? you're so weird. why are you thinking about her?" etc. Is it really weird that I asked those things and how so?

Answer 1

Maybe it's in the definition of "weird" or maybe it would be better to use a more precise word.   Maybe he means "unusual that you even remember that"  or "scarce...not many people even care enough to ask about another person's feelings" or maybe "intrusive... you're invading my personal space"

Weird doesn't mean too much.  The next time it happens hand him a thesaurus and say, "Can you be more precise ?"

Answer 2

guess this guy sounds like he certainly have some issues and he's trying to justify himself to be alright by saying that you're weird. By the way, guys are degenerate in conversational skills so it feels like you might like him when you asked him about his friend (especially is a her.) Anyway he seemed to have put up that protective cover so the next time if he says that you're weird again confront him in a nice tone and you'll get the answers you wanted. Alternative if he's just a very normal friend to you leave him alone cos he might have other problems he need to settle on his own first. Take care.

Answer 3

Nope you're just random. Like me =D

Answer 4

no, hes the one thats weird, lol.

=)

Answer 5

You're not wierd. Sounds like this person just wanted to make you feel a bit awkward. I'm not really a people person - I like my own company a lot - which my boyfriend dosen't really understand ' but to me it feels lovely.

Answer 6

I seem to get the "you are weird thing" when people don't know me yet, or the boundaries are not established.

Not many people ask questions like, were you sad.  You are going beyond small talk and idle conversation, because that is a real question that requires some thought to answer.  For some reason, real questions are rare.  I suspect he said you are weird because most people simply are not interested in how he feels or what he does.  You are asking him unexpected questions and for some reason he seems uncertain how he should respond.  Most people ask superficial questions because it is easy and comfortable, or they really are not all that interested.  Motivations, games, levels of interest, communication is tricky amongst humans.

Answer 7

i most certianly hope so. weird people are the only ones around that are not nutty as a jar of peanut butter.

Answer 8

So you have learned timing is important.  We can't always know if we pick a good time to talk of a delicate issue, but we can adjust when we see it is not working.  Sometimes people open up about something, and later act tough as if they never had a problem...so that is good to know so you don't feel bad yourself.  Sounds like you have a health self image and don't mind being different, so you will do well in life from that attitude.

Answer 9

No doesn't sound like you are asking weird questions...clearly the person you are speaking to doesn't want to answer the question so puts it on you that you are weird.