Am I really to young?

Question

Is 20 (21 in a few months) really to young to start thinking about being enganged and marriage in 2-3 years?

I understand it would be if you still lived at home/were in college full time. But what if you graduated school (college tech school) Working full time making 14+ an hour, living 110% on our own for over a year and half. is it?

Answer 1

No it's not too young. If you two really love each other than why not?

Answer 2

no my mom married my bros dad at 18 years old

Answer 3

alot of people will say yes because they got married at that age and were not stable enough to do so.  i think it varies from person to person and i think you are fine to get married when you feel comfortable.

Answer 4

No.

'cause you can support yourself.

You have a job.

Answer 5

21 is old... if mother nature had its way youd have three kids right now! 15 - 20 is the ideal time to have children apparently, biologically atleast. If it feels guuud go for it!

Answer 6

No you're not. You really can take care of yourself from what this says. Also, you've been with the same guy for a long time. Good for you!

♥Mimi♥

Answer 7

nope i don't think your to young sounds like your responsible. my parents got married at 19 and there going to be married 22 years in august.

Answer 8

No, that seems about the right age to me =)

Answer 9

I think that it sounds fine.  It all depends on the people.  Some people mature faster than others.  I met my husband when I was 18 ( right out of high school), and he was 20.  We both wanted the same things, and although it has not always been easy, we have been together for 10 years.  I do recommend living together first though.  You do not really know someone until you live with them.

Answer 10

Don't worry about your age when it comes to marriage.  If you and your partner are happy together and want to get married then do it.  I'm guessing that people have told you that you are too young to do this, but don't listen to them.  If you are ready, then it is ok.  Lots of happily married couples get married when they are young.

Answer 11

No, I don't think you are too young. Getting married young and having kids young is great.

Answer 12

no, i dont think ur to young...

im 18 and i feel that I'm not to young,

its  just that im not responsible enough for a husband......you might be though.

Answer 13

not too young

Answer 14

thats a great age!!

Answer 15

no you are not too young... it is really up to you and only you know if you are trulyin love but I pesonally would wait maybee another year. You probabaly dont know what it is like to go to a club order a drink and party maybee get thrown out. You might like this atmosphere more than being a wife. The thign is once you are married its only a matter of time before children and then partying is usually out. Its up to ypu and now you know the facts. Good luck and listen to your heart.

Answer 16

nope!  you are normal!! lol

Answer 17

No I was married at that age and so were alot of my friends.

Answer 18

I think it's wonderful that you are committed and in love and have all your stuff together. Sounds like you're in the right place.

Marriage is hard though. If you're willing to do whatever to make it last and stick together I think you should.

Congratulations..

And an early Happy Birthday. :)

Answer 19

why would it make a difference even if you were still in college? i dont like it how people get engaged and then they are still engaged like 5 years later. Dont get engaged until you are actually ready to be married. -just an annoyance of mine!

Answer 20

I would say this is a great age to think about getting engaged, but I would set the engagement at least 2 years in the future. Just so you can be sure he is the right one. But you sound like you're responsible and thinking ahead.

Answer 21

depends on how well you know him and how much you lived you life, i was married by 22 and now i realise i wasnt ready. my family was. now at 25 i still trying to get a divorce. he was not the man that he protrayed to be 3 years prior. take you time and when your ready, you'll know. but try to experience life alittle before hand, :) wish you well, and you'll know.

Answer 22

Nope sounds like you have your head on straight...Good Luck!

Answer 23

I think the issue isn't a number, but maturity.  Are you ready to give your life to someone else, putting them first, etc?  Is the guy able to provide for a family?  Etc.

I was married at 17, almost 18.  I was very mature for my age.  I had graduated high school early and was less than 9 months away from graduating from college when we married.  I just had always shown much more maturity than the average person my age.  I was ready to marry before I was even technically an adult.

When we married, my husband was 20, almost 21.  He had also always been very mature for his age.  He had already graduated with an engineering degree and was in graduate school with tuition paid and an assistantship that could support a family.

Again, numbers aren't the best way to determine.  I think there's no reason that most people shouldn't be mature enough to marry by that age, but in this day of irresponsibility stretching well into adulthood, I'm not sure how many actually are.

Answer 24

eh, it just depends i guess. I mean, I don't think I wanna think about anything like that until I'm at least 25.

Answer 25

just wait till you're 21 which isn't that long. haha. you just want to be able to legally drink. and no that's not to young. my sister just got married. she's 23 and her husband is still in school (he's younger than she is).

Answer 26

If you don't know the difference between "too" and "to", you're TOO young.  :)

Answer 27

When ever you and your significant other are ready...go for it!  You don't need others' opinions and approval.  Sounds like you've got your feet on the ground...(and your head in the clouds of love...lol).  Good for you!

Answer 28

u should wait a little bit longer

Answer 29

You are definatlly not to young if you really love this person

Answer 30

no most women are married and want to be married before 25. You dont want to start to late to start a family