Am I required to celebrate my mother-in-laws birthday?

Question

My husband and I just got married last month. His mother did not like the fact that we were engaged or got married. As a matter of fact, his mother and I have not really gotten along at all for about a year and a half. Tomorrow is her birthday and she called to see if we were all going to get together. I have no problem putting on a fake smile for the holidays and family reunion, but do I really have to celebrate her?

Answer 1

When you celebrate your mother-in-law birthday you help celebrate your husband.  If she would have not been born, then she wouldn't had have that wonderful guy you called your husband. Don't do it for her, do it for him. A couple of hours and then you guys can go have your on celebration.

Answer 2

She sounds like a terror.  I'm sorry you have to deal with her.  But yes, I think you should really show up for her birthday, do the minimum.  

Kill her with kindness.  I'd be sweet as possible, even if it's fake.  She might just start liking you, despite herself.

Answer 3

Hey there been there done that and for the sake of the man  play the game. Mums always have a certain pull over boys so being a ***** ain't going to cut it. I think the best way to be the winner is to treat her as she treats her, give her a dose of her own medicine. If she doesn't want to talk then don't you, If she ignores you the you do the same, If she's ride you been the same and if she is a bitchy thing you do the same. Copy her every little game plan and you will win and the man will think you are trying so hard to be nice. Don't let on what the game is and you will always have something to smile about especially when you have kids as its a mum and daughter thing and you can turn the cards around on her

good luck

Answer 4

Come on now - of course you do. She is your husband's mother and unless she is really mean to you then you don't want to give her any ammunition. You're husband will be forever grateful for you being so nice to his mother.