Am I required to put the father on the birth certificate and let him in the child's life?

Question

Long story short I am having a baby in two months and trying to leave my husband-due to repetitive cheating and extreme abuse-he is in the Army and I have to leave Europe, I think it is finally kicking in that I don't want this man to be in my child's life, he has a short temper, and a million other things that would make me just not want him to see her at all. Am I required to put his name on the birth certificate? Furthermore, is there a way he can get custody without me using his name on her birth certificate. Thanks for any help.

Answer 1

I believe a woman can put any name she wishes on a birth certificate.

BUT if your married, I'm not sure, but there may be laws where that's concerned.

If you can prove he's as unstable as you say ( abuse is), I doubt he will have a very good chance of custody.

Answer 2

To be sure you have to ask a lawyer where you come from, and as well the place you are going, cause things can change pretty much between countries.

Perhaps the best thing you should do is to actually go to a Police Department and tell your story to have something in the record against him, in order to try to have a court order against him (the ones that ban him get close to you from x kms)

In some cases a necessary divorce when you can prove the mistreat or bad behavior (cheating) or bad example as father could help, cause in the worst cases even when is your baby, if you just leave the country, he could accuse you from kidnapping the baby and that´s bad in the case of fighting the custody.

When you file a bad conduct as this, is in some cases more probably that the Law find you the only one that can have the full custody of the child (for the best of the baby, supposedly) The thing you have to be sure is that you don´t have something that can be used against you (criminal records example) and you have a way of living that can support both you and the baby.

Try to contact a lawyer, get an appropriate advice and hope the decision comes as easy as possible that in a case like yours can be.

Good luck.

Answer 3

since you're married to him the child will automatically be deemed to be born from the husband.

so yes you have no option really... unless he is not the father, then you can put in some test evidence and write father unkown or whatever you like..

you can't just shut out a father from a child's life...

your relationship with the father has nothing to do with the father's relationship with the child..

the child has all the right to know his father and vice versa...

I guess for your child;s sake you should be mature and draw a line.. don't be selfish your child's well being is more imp..

I'm not telling you to stay with your husband but just because you don't love your husband or your husband doesn't love you doesn't mean he won't love his child.

since there is violence involved things change... household violence unfortuantely is very common nowadays and it's true you never see it coming.

however if he abuses of you while you're preganant i would suggest you file for seperation and get a restraining order to avoid and ugly mishappenings.. I don't know how it works in Nebraska but usually in states child protection units are active.. you can get a curator for your baby even though still unborn.

as regards to moving it might be a good idea however you alone in a new country new baby new job, how will you cope?

taking care of a new born is difficult, not all babies are the same and some just cry for nothing 24/7 for months till they settle u have to be prepared for everything...

so i guess the first step would just getting your husband out of the matrimonial home.. then take it from there.

Answer 4

if hes not at the hospital when the baby is born then i wouldnt put his name on any thing... and if hes not on the birth certifivate he cant get custody unless he asks for a dna test.

Answer 5

how do I know that you are not making all this up?

Answer 6

You didn't say if you are American or not?  If you are and you are married, the baby will be automatically his if you conceive or have the baby during the marriage (unless he proves otherwise).  If you want child support you have to let him know.  You also have to think of the child when it gets older.  Any name would be better than UNKNOWN.

Answer 7

You can put any name you want on paper, but he also can ask that he and child have D,N.A test to prove he is the father and then ask for paternal rights. It will be up to a judge to determine the rigts of each parent. LOL

Answer 8

I think you have to put his name but if you divorce him he could fight you for legal rights. But if you have enough evidence to prove what a b*****d he really is then you should be able to get full custody of your little girl. Good luck!

Answer 9

nope you dont have to put his name down

but your going to have to go to court in order to take him out of the childs life

and i would suggest a restraining order

my dads name isnt on my birth certifiate