Am I right in being angry at mom????

Question

My mom is the caregiver for my 2 year old, I go to college, and today she had an appointment at the doctor's and our plan was for me to be late to school, but it turns out to be that I would have to miss school because she don't know how long she is going to take, I will miss a test so practically I would get a 0 for the day she told me to let my little brother one is 8 and the other 7 take care of my 2 year old, but how in the h**l am I going to leave my 2 year old with little kids, am I right in being angry at her?

Answer 1

No you shouldnt be angry at her...I understand your frustration but you also need to understand that it's your child not your mothers...maybe you should look into putting him in daycare or a headstart program.

Answer 2

You should have made other arrangements. Your mom has a life too. Don't put all of the blame on her. It's not her fault her dr's appt is longer than expected. Always have a back up plan...

Answer 3

How much do you pay your mom to watch your 2 year old? Yes, that matters. If nothing, than you have nothing to expect, you are lucky to have her and you have no idea how expensive childcare is.  

Answer 4

Well.... he is your kid. Do you pay your mom to watch him? Is it her job?  Perhaps you should have some back-up sitters so she's not overwhelmed and doesn't feel like her life has to revolve around her grandchild. If she did say she could do it when she really couldn't, then yes, you do have a right to be annoyed. You should tell her that if she can't watch your kid, to tell you the truth so that you can plan otherwise.  

Answer 5

uhhhh.... ya!!!!!!!!!!!! that is such an irresponsible thing for her to suggest but you probably should have scheduled the appointment at a time that you were available to take your son

Answer 6

I  will agree that that is the dumbest thing i've ever hear 8 and 7 is too young to be left alone all day long much less with a 2 yr old. i too would be very angry...

Answer 7

If you knew there was a test, there should have had plan B for just in case the appointment ran late. You were right to not leave the 8 and 7 year old watching your 2 year old, though, and I'm glad for that.

Being angry is definitely understandable in this situation as well, but with doctors and their offices, there's not always a way your mom would have known how long it would take, and you can't blame her for what's not her fault.

I'd talk to the teacher who gave the test and explain the situation and see if you could do a makeup test or assignments or something, as well as use it as a learning experience for the future.

Answer 8

Well hun, you have to look at the point of view on her side.. So I know you missed that test but you can make it up. And family comes first in everything. I would be as all h**l mad but just try to see both sides of the situation before you make your final descion.

Answer 9

It seems there was a lack of communication beforehand. I'm sure she didn't intentionally misinform you. So you have to accept that it was a mistake, simple as that. Can you make up your test? Consider all your other options and plan from there. Don't waste energy on being upset with her. Especially since you rely on her to keep your 2 year old. Be grateful for her being there for you and forgive her. Be certain that you understand her plans the next time so not to be in the same circumstances.

Answer 10

Why would you be angry with her?  She's not obligated to take care of your child.  Instead of being angry with her (which will clearly solve nothing), why don't you try putting your big girl pants on & start taking care of your responsibilities?  Have you checked into daycare for your child?  There are plenty of single mothers who attend school AND work to support their children without the help of their own parents.  

Answer 11

yes you are.

i would be pissed

Answer 12

Yes you are. I would talk to her if i were you. Don't let her leave your kid with your brothers!

Answer 13

it's not her fault.. you dont have the right to be mad at her... but you can be furious with the doctor.  

Answer 14

u have every right to be mad at her but think did she mean it that way and ask your teacher for a retake or a --take LOL

Answer 15

Yes.  Why wouldn't your mom just reschedule her doctor's appt. so that it wouldn't interfere with your testing time?

Answer 16

I would be angry too. Those kids are wayyy too young to be left with a 2 year old in my opinion.  

Answer 17

I think it is silly to leave a 2 year old in the care of a 7/8 year old so that would justify some anger on my part, but really since your mom is helping you take care of your child i wouldnt be to upset, she is the one doing a big favor in helping you raise your kid, but i would say frustration is more acurate just because of the lack of planning between the two of you for this doctors appointment....

Answer 18

no, you dont have the right to be angry.

your mom doesnt have to watch your child at all, be glad she does!

you shouldve made other plans for your 2 year old to be watched that day. doctors appointments NEVER start or end on time.

either find a last minute babysitter or miss the test...even if theyre responsible, your little brothers may not be able to handle it if a situation comes up.

Answer 19

You can be annoyed with her because you were depending on her but angry, I think is too much. If you are angry it should be directed at yourself for not coming up with a backup plan. You should've let your prof know the situation and asked if you couldn't get a sitter could you bring the baby in with you and sit in the back of the class. another thing you could've done is given a little cash to one of your trusted friends to watch the baby til you were done taking your test.  There are other things that you could've done. So don't take it out on your mom, your child is your responsibility, so be annoyed just not angry at her

Answer 20

No you're off base. I've seen it time and again - grandmothers having to raise their children's children.  You got yourself into this situation, she didn't.  Have a back up plan or find alternate child care.    Mom should not have to put her  health care and for that matter, her life, on hold to take care of your child.  

Answer 21

to answer your question... NO!

whose baby is it nayway?? not hers, its YOURS. if mom cant watch baby for the full amt. of time that you need, then hire a sitter. doent be selfish. your mom had her babies and made the sacrifices, now its your turn. grow up.

Answer 22

I don't think your right to be angry at your mother for having a dr. appointment. But I do agree that you shouldn't let little kids watch your 2 year old.

Your the parent, and it is your responsibility to have someone watch your child. You should find a babysitter that you can trust, for the times when your mom isn't available.

Answer 23

ys u are

Answer 24

u r right in not leaving ur 2 yearold with young siblings..ur mom is right about the timing of the appt..we all know doctor's appts are like weather predictions.

ur mom could have changed the appt..but i do know sometimes u have to wait months for the next appt

what can be done here..talk to ur teacher, ask her/him if u can retake the test w/different questions..im sure..he/she will understand,..get a doc's note from mom's doc if thats needed..no,dont be angry at mom..she wasnt going for a hair appt:)

Answer 25

you should have calmly explain that was inappropriate but appreciate the fact she was at least trying to find alternatives so you could make it to school!

had she done it then i would be mad, but it was a mere suggestion so i would let it go.  

Answer 26

No she is trying to the right thing for not only you but for everyone because she knows that you are responsible and that you can make the right choice try not to be mad at her but be proud that she knows you are a good person and that you are responsible enough to make good choices well all you have to do is talk to her about it she thinks your okay with it unless you talk to her she doesn't know you don't like it.