Am I right in wanting my husband to me her phone number?

Question

My husband of 13 years exchanged phone numbers with a woman he smiled at in the street. Apparently she smiled back and she wrote down her number and gave it to him, he obviously could only his work number and mobile so she knew his married and was wearing a wedding ring. Anyway she rings him up at work and asks him to go round her flat to help her with an assignment she is doing. He did but he says they didn't have s*x only kissed. I want the stupid cow's number to give her a piece of my mind and to back off!. My husband categorily refuses

Answer 1

My opinion: he should call her in front of you so you know it's done and tell her not to contact him ever again in any manner whatsoever, that he loves you and is staying with you, and hang up on her. That should end it and make you feel better.

Also, I find it hard to believe he went there and just kissed her. Sorry.

If this is the first time he's ever cheated, recommend counseling. If he's done it before, I'd divorce.

Answer 2

Yep....we just allhand out phone numbers to strange females on the street who then call us and ask us to drop by their place.

"Only kissed" Yeah right.

Answer 3

Oh please he is lying if he went to her place then he f*cked her.

Dont believe his bs.

Answer 4

Question your husbands motives, not some slapper who picks men up off the street (that alone tells you what kind of woman she is). I would go ballistic if my husband did that and further more I can't believe he told you. Is he trying to make you jealous or wants you to pay him more attention?

I can imagine how you are feeling - I would want to shove that piece of paper right down her throat! Try to swallow your anger and talk to him sensibly. Ask him what is going on and if you are not happy with the answers tell him you will have to consider seeking legal advice. Good luck.

Answer 5

The woman owes you nothing not even an explaination.  Your husband is 100% to blame and the only reason he refuses to allow you to vent at the Other is because he wants it to continue.  What married man exchanges numbers with a random woman and goes to her house just to kiss.  Be smart about this and do not allow him to play you for a fool.

Answer 6

well i must agree with the others it isnt her fault.

she wants a bit of fun in her life and doesnt see anyone else apart from your husband.

but if you husband had warned her of then it wouldnt have become an issue in the first place.

it is your husbands.

Answer 7

The big question is..... Why are you still there?? Don't let a man treat you this way. You have every right to be angry,jealous, or whatever else you can come up with. Bottom line is, he will continue this behavior unless YOU stop it. You can be angry with this woman, but the real person that should be answering to you is your cheating husband.

Answer 8

Absolutely NOT acceptable!! Would he like it if you took a strange man's phone number? Is he married or not?   Many women do not care if a man is married ( I know this from experience!).

How is the situation in your marriage? Intimacy? Friendship?

You guys to seriously talk.

Javy

Answer 9

Its your husbands fault unless she put a gun in his back and forced him to hand over the numbers, kidnapped him and took him back to her place and gave him some 'work' to do in her home!!!!

Why was he so compliant I wonder?  Sounds like he couldn't wait to get around there.  I imagine he did more than smile at her to get her number - I bet he chatted her up big time.  Get a grip - girls dont go handing out their numbers to any old person on the street!!!!!

Answer 10

What would it achieve?  So you'd shout at her and tell her to back off, fine, but it won't change the fact that your husband still went round there.  You need to deal with the real issue between you and your husband, screaming at the other woman won't fix that.

Answer 11

Too right he did, if he got lucky what is it to you. You sound jealous to me.

Why not ask yourself what she is providing that you are failing to provide.

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Answer 12

I think you need to realize something here hun…while this woman opened that door, your husband did NOT refuse! Your anger should be with your husband, not with this other woman. Why waste your time with her? Focus on your husband, what HE did wrong, and focus on whether or not you want to fix this and go from there.

If you start obsessing with wanting revenge on this other woman, it’ll never end until you get it. You need to channel your anger towards your husband as he’s just as d**n guilty, if not moreso!!

Answer 13

Interesting story. Try giving him your number and see if he rings you too for a sha-sha-yangy-thangy.

Answer 14

Your husband is an absolute Tw@t - This is NOT acceptable at all.  How would he feel if you took some blokes number and started to go round to his place for "kissing sessions"  F*cking ********! and that b*tch needs to be taught a lesson as well -she knows he's married and is as much to blame as your husband - he is cheating.  You need to sit him down and have a heart to heart and tell him how this is affecting you, this has got to stop now if your marriage is to survive.  I hope it all works out - Good Luck.

Answer 15

I'm really sorry to say this but the real stupid cow is your husband who kissed her back!

kick him out of your house,he doesn't deserve you!

best of luck

Answer 16

Oh yeah- SHE'S the stupid cow.  Don't be daft, the only stupid cow here is you.  Think, think, think.

Answer 17

If you ring her she will only find it amusing that she has your husband there at the click of a finger. she will mischeivously find that you ringing her will make her want your husband more.

How did u find out about this? and if your husband is capable of meeting up with a lady he met in the street then you marriage needs some serious working on, or a divorce wouldnt go a miss

x

Answer 18

if he tells you what is going on, they are not doing anything.. it has to be his decision.. you cannot control him.. but, kissing crosses the line...  

Answer 19

He refuses because he is having an affair. If my husband did this..hed be sitting on the curb with all his belongings while I called my lawyer for a divorce. & Kissing is cheating..HELLO?

Answer 20

I wouldn't open that door.

Answer 21

I'm sorry but I think you have to do much more then give this chick a piece of your mind. Your husband was over at her place.. kissing her, he's just as much to blame as the other woman. If he has no problem kissing another woman, he has no problem sleeping with another woman.

Answer 22

Surely you should be angry with your husband, not her. She didn't force him to go around to her flat.

Answer 23

you have every right to be pissed off, and to confront this woman. Your husband is refusing to give you her number probably for a couple reasons. He does not want you to yell at her (like she and he both deserve). Is there another way of getting the number, or of contacting her? Like maybe he has her stored inhis celphone, or maybe a work colleague of his knows her. In any event, you are absolutely right in wanting to confront her, and give both her and your husband a piece of your mind  

Answer 24

You need to get angry with your husband ,not this woman - what she does is not your business, what HE does is because he's married to you, he didn't have to get involved with her, she didn't do all the running, dont let him put all the blame onto her.

Answer 25

So you're angry at her and not at your husband? Did you swallow what he told you, hook, line and sinker? Mooooooooo!

Answer 26

dunrobin say's you sound jealous and what are you doing that's not satisfying, that b/s he's a cheater that has nothing to do with you,that is all him! I would be pi**** off and kick his a** right before I kicked him out of my life.

Answer 27

It wouldn't do you any good to contact her.  She doesn't even know you, therefore she owes you nothing.  If she did talk to you instead of hanging up in your face, you have no way to know whether she is telling the truth or not.  Really, it would accomplish nothing!   If nothing happened, she could say something did happen in an effort to break up your not-so-happy home.  If something did happen, she could lie and say it didn't because she wants it to keep happening without him getting in trouble.  

Answer 28

Honey my husband & I have been together for 21yrs . Don't open that door sweetie you have ever right in the world to be angry however even though the woman gave the number your husband did not have to accept or threw it away but he chose not to do that You know there is a old saying from back in my days " the same thing it took to get your baby hooked it gonna take the same thing to kept him"  just something to think about

  

Answer 29

It takes two people to kiss.  I'd be more pissed off at my husband not the other woman.  I'm sure he the one that instigated it.

Answer 30

WOW he kissed her?   Your Husband?  And your this calm about it?  Dont get walked on girl. Stand up for yourself.  Then there is the other side of the story. Why does he do this in the first place?  Sounds like hes not happy at home?  

Answer 31

He refuses because he is afraid you will learn his stuck his willy in her.

Honey have SOME dignity and place blame in the proper receptacle.