Am I right to be very upset?

Question

Even before my nephews were born, I told my sister how I can't wait to take them places especially camping. Years have passed, she keeps telling me they won't like camping but low and behold now she's going to go with another family she met. My sister has done this a few times before where we plan trips and last minute tells me she's going with a family who has kids. (like just now - canceled our trip to SeaWorld to go camping) To top it off my mom told me she's planing a trip to SeaWorld with that family. I have always been there for them. I just don't want to be treated like a 3rd class citizen whose purpose is to only be around when help is needed. I'm very hurt by this and a part of me doesn't want to speak to her ever again. I told her how upset I am and she claims I'm jealous. I don't understand. Jealous? I just want to do something fun and different with them. Am I wrong to be upset? Does this happen to other Aunts and Uncles?

Answer 1

Hey. Yeah you do have a right to be upset. I would be upset. I would give up on this idea it's not worth hassling her about it. She sounds like she thinks your always going to be there whatever she does. It's time she learns differently.  

Answer 2

I know what you are saying, that would be frustrating. Maybe your sister thinks it would be more "fun" for the kids with other family's kids. The point is NO ONE can replace that special relationship with an aunt. Just be there for them when you can, and don't stress too much, I know easier said than done.

Answer 3

You shouldn't be upset.  (Even if you are, your sister should NEVER see it).

They're her kids, they may be your nephews, but their her responsibility.

If you feel she's using you, simply make yourself unavailable when she needs "help".

Already have a commitment, (here's a hint, write yourself a note promising yourself you'll be busy next time she needs help), then tell her you promised someone else your time, and your not available.

Quit telling her your upset, you're simply giving her more control in a situation that's already frustrating you.

It her loss, and her kids, it's not your fault.

Wait until she's frustrated about not having enough time with her husband alone, offer to take the kids camping so she'll have the weekend off.  This way, your the good guy, doing her a favor.

Luck

Answer 4

honestly i can't believe your asking us this question.

are you waiting for us to tell you your wrong for being upset. your upset and thats all there is too it.

theres no wrong or right emotion its how you feel

Im suprised you have to have our opinons to notice that what your doing is the right thing and if she has shut you down theres nothing more you can do.

I agree with other people on this.

If she's going to be like that let her. It really is nothing your doing wrong it's just that there are selfish people out there that only want to hang around you when they have nothing better to do. Trust me i would know from experience and from my opinon i kno i wouldnt want to be a round them if that's how they were going to treat me.

and from your prespective it sounds like you need to do it with someone else.

Maybe try talking to the nephews instead of her sister. and then talk to the sister after you have confronted them and tell her what they have said if they want to go or not maybe they no nothing about the plans you are trying to make.

Good luck and dont worry so much..

idk what else to say besides

Life sucks wear a helmet haha

Answer 5

You have been a wonderful sister!

Obviously your sister doesn't appreciate you - and right now she doesn't deserve you - maybe she never will if she carrys on like that!

Its obviously not jealousy but for some reason she would rather shut you out and go with a family with kids

She could still consider and appreciate your desire to do things with them and do BOTH

Don't let her use you when it suits her

Stand your ground and back of a bit and live your own life - sounds like she's always saying no to you - well start SAYING NO TO HER!