Am I so Attached to him Because I lost my Virginity to him??! HELP

Question

My bf that ive been with for over a year just dumped me..

i lost my virginty to him and we always would fight, we never agreed on anything. sumtimes i swore that i hated him.

but for sum reason letting him go was the hardest thing ive done =[

y am i so attached to him if we were completley oppiste?

Answer 1

It's called love.

Answer 2

He is your first love darling. I can assure you that you most likely aren't attached to him any longer - what you are feeling is a sense of misbelonging - you realize what you had (when times were good) and are missing those.

The good thing is that once you realize that you are over him - you can careful find someone with the qualities that you want rather than the ones you tolerated.

Virginity has nothing to do with this - he was your first love and probably your longest relationship (?)

Don't worry you will get through this.

God Bless darling!

Answer 3

I think you think you are attracted to him now because were with him for a year and so were used to being with him. I doubt it has anything to do with you losing your virginity to him. But it is a good thing that you have recognised that you have let him go, so now you can get on with the rest of your life, having new fun experiences.  

Answer 4

this is not love it is a very very common things especially with women, the first man they let bump uglies with is the man they become attached too in the same way that you do. this too is why God intended that you wait until you are married before you spread your legs for the man and let him in.  

Answer 5

You are bound to feel this way. A year in a relationship can be a long time & it is not nice to be "dumped" for whatever reason.

Try to look at it positively - he has actually done you a favour by walking away now. Better that than being legally committed to him and then it going pear-shaped.

You are probably still readjusting to being single again. Look for some new interests/hobbies - this will bring new friends and who knows what might be around the corner for you waiting to happen!

Best wishes. UK

Answer 6

The are things that happen in a women's brain when you are intimate with someone that make you feel very attached so yes the fact that you lost your virginity to him is part of it.  You have also been with him a long time for being your first intimate relationship.  It is a hard thing to get over and it may take a little while but you will.  Trust me I went through the same thing many years ago with the guy I lost my virginity to (also very opposite and not right for me).  The breakup was really hard but I eventually got over it and moved onto guys that treated me much better.  Hang out with friends and do things to keep your mind off it.  Don't sleep with any new guy too soon but do move on to having fun with new people.  You will get over it slowly but surely just like I did and date better and better guys in the future the more you learn about yourself and relationships.