Am I socially retarded?

Question

Okay, I'm sorry. I've asked this question before and it probably boils down to the same exact thing. See, I'm really quiet, sometimes I just have nothing to say. Totally BLANK. I wasn't always like this, but now I just like to keep thoughts to myself, but the problem is I always loving being with the person I hang out with.. I just don't know what to say! I mean, they're quiet as well, I try my best to ask them questions an such.. but then they don't ask me questions back or anything an those people I hang out with are like the most outgoing people I know. What am I suppossed to do when I try to make a conversation? I try to come up with topics and topics and they just answer me back and sometimes I feel like they're just not interested in me, or like I'm the one who needs to find their nitch to be able to talk. Sometimes I just can't think of anything so it's really boring and I feel bad at the end of the day because we wind up in silence. HELP!! =[

Answer 1

i have had a similar thing

i got new friends and it changed.

you have to find common inrests to talk about, or to get exsited about

sometime you need more people to keep things going

Answer 2

don't feel bad yourself...some people are just like to following those who are usually the loudest and they probably are still doing that...

just be yourself and enjoy hanging out...

Answer 3

That's Asperger's....and it don't mean you are retarded.  In fact, a person that has it is usually smarter than the average person, they are most just socially inept.

Answer 4

You seem to be doing a pretty good job asking this question.  You had a lot to say.  So don't put yourself down.

Try talking about what interests they have, or what they did that day etc..

Once you start a conversation it just flows.  Give it a try, and you will see it is much easier than you think.

Answer 5

At least you dont have Aspburgers, socially awkward and retarded. So I don't think you are.

You are just shy. And speechless. For a year I was speechless and kept all my important thoughts to myself. Then I changed. I knew this totally wasn't me.

Answer 6

You need to find something you are both into, to cement that common ground. Even if it's inviting them to play tennis or anything, thats what i did with a friend of mine, and now we have too much to talk about.

Answer 7

I think you should try and converse with people who are outgoing and ALWAYS have somethng to say. It will help you feel more relaxed when you don't have to always work to talk with them. I was in you position in middle school, and believe me stepping out of your boundaries to talk with other people will help a great deal :)