Am I the only person in the world who has zero tolerance for "sorry" repeat offenders?

Question

I have been criticized as being a hard-ball, and I'm sick of it! I believe in will-power. I believe that people make conscious choices for or against an action.Maybe once, they slip up, which certainly warrants forgiveness, but if "sorry" is delivered again from a repeat offender, I bail out. A male friend who is interested in me has a "habit" of calling me sweetheart. I've explicitly advised that I'm uninterested in him and that I detest terms of endearment being used by those I am not involved with.The first time he used "pretty","sweetheart", "sweetie", I told him I despised that and to refrain. Well, we hung out with some friends last night and he addressed me as "sweetie", then chuckled it off uncomfortably, saying " Sorry, I'm trying". I have zero tolerance for disrespect, yet he and some of the others claim I'm too rigid and hard. How many times should a person be allowed to apologize for the same offense? Why is lack of will power and discipline constantly excused in society?!

Answer 1

I totally agree.  However many people exercise very poor judgment and get into so many kinds of trouble as result that they are bound to continue to s***w up.  "I'm trying" is pretty feeble IMO.  Ethics and will power are bred not born and it takes some a very long time before they get it.

Answer 2

On this issue, I think you probably are being a little rigid.

IMO, a term of endearment is just that...You shouldn't be offended that someone thinks of you in a pleasant way - you should be complimented.  It's not intended to be disrespectful, and in this life, you have to learn to take things as they're intended.  If he calls you a hag, then be offended.  Until then, try to understand his intent, and deal with that, instead of the actual words.

Also, if someone has lifelong habits that aren't offensive to anyone else in their world, it's hard to change them when they're only around you.  For example...you walk in a particular manner.  Imagine that you have a friend who is sorely offended by the way you walk, so you have to change the way you walk, but only when you're with that particular friend.  My guess is that you would walk the wrong way, simply because of the way your neurons have been firing for the last 20+ years.  Yes, you ARE capable of doing it differently, and I would assume that you would be TRULY sorry, if you did it wrong...you'd slip, then apologize, and expect your friend to accept your apology and your faults.

From where I'm sitting, you're taking this "offense" the wrong way, and you're being fairly ungracious the fact that he's trying to change his ways.

Edit:

Regarding Next?'s answer...Calling him a c**k$ucker is entirely NOT the same as him calling you sweetie.  It would be more equivalent to call him sugarlumps, or tootsie.

Answer 3

I agree with you 100%....

Answer 4

Nope, I agree with you!

Answer 5

Well it could just be a habit of his. It may not necessarily be just towards you and it comes out naturally.

Answer 6

What I'm most surprised about after reading this question is that you have any friends at all.

Answer 7

So, I assume you NEVER have made a mistake in your whole life, right? 'Sorry's are usually followed by forgiveness. Sorrys are what happen when you make a mistake. So you've never said sorry? Have you ever wanted someone to forgive you?

Answer 8

you should stab him in the eye,sweetie

8-P

Answer 9

I agree. Pity you can't call him c**k$ucker in return. He's not trying at all, really, he's thinking he can wear you down in time...don't let him and don't let anyone tell you you're too anything, stick to your guns.

Answer 10

wow, you sound like a ***** (female dog)