I've spent the last 20 years with anxiety-- trying to pretend that I'm above it rather than truly, truly relax. Now, I feel as though I've turned this corner in many ways and am really trying to naturally cure my anxiety through time alone spent truly relaxing my mind and body. However, one vital thing I've realized is that I've spent almost all of my life keeping all of my feelings hidden and contained, and that I can only truly relax without anxiety and depression slowly taking over when I sit with someone and talk for a long time about exactly how I'm feeling: I'm completely open and honest with them, used to be my Girlfriend and Best Friend and Brother, now my Girlfriend is gone and my Brother and I...are close but just not talking as much. I'm about to go back to college after this crazy summer of learning these things about myself, and I'm terrified: I need to talk to people like this, I need to, but I feel like I need it every god-d**n night and HOW can I possibly achieve that? I don't have good enough friends--something I plan to work on fixing and cultivating--but even if I do cultivate it how do I ask them to sit with me every night and, primarily, talk, because my anxiety is too intense otherwise? I am going to therapy, but it doesn't seem to be getting anywhere...I'm scared and it's boosting my anxiety and I'm dealing with my girlfriend breaking up with me and ultimately I just don't know what's going to happen in 10 days when I have to go back to this place where I'm 1000 times more lonely than I am here WHERE I'M ALREADY LONELY. I'd really like to hear that it's OK to ask this of people and to try to show them that talking and being open can help them too (Because it can, I believe most people don't recognize how vital it is) but I don't know, I think I need an unusual amount...like this, tonight, I'm writing this because tonight I couldn't find someone to hang with and talk...I'm so god-d**n lonely and hurting and unhappy and I just want to relax and feel OK.
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