Am I too stricked?

Question

I have a 8 year old duaghter and a 11 year old son. They play with the kids down the road. The mother lets her kids whos ages are 4, 8, 13, watch scary gory movies like wrong turn, Scream ect. Tonight my 8 year old duaghter came home upset becuase when they was going to watch the TV show family guy my duaghter said she was going home cuase she is not allowed to watch it. they made fun of her saying I am too overprotective and she was a moms girl. The Mother also lets the kids stay up real late like 11 pm on school nights. My kids have a 8:30 bed time during the week and 9:30 on weekends. I am sure my children are confused about why I set such stricked rules . Should I bend or what do I do. Should I not let my children hang out with this family. Please help.

Answer 1

Honey you're doing fine. Strict isn't a bad thing and too many people in our society today think it is. That should have been an awful proud moment when your daughter came home instead of watching something she knows you don't approve of. The other parents are the bad ones, not you.

Answer 2

Let your conscience be your guide, not peer pressure from other parents!

Answer 3

no--keep them interested in more wholesome friends and activities unless you want them to turn into hellions

Answer 4

It's strict.  And no I do not think you are being strict, you are being a good parent as you know how.  Do not bend the rules because of one family.  I don't think they should be banned from playing with them though.  Different parenting and rules work for different families.

It's also very admirable that your daughter actually left the house when they were going to watch it.  She could have easily watched it behind your back.  You're obviously raising good, honest children,  Good job.

Answer 5

Don't change your rules  because of those kids. I think you are doing fine. The other mom is the one that needs to change on what she does.

Answer 6

This is entirely your decision.  If it is not in your child's best interests to be with this kids, don't allow it.

Follow your instincts.  Just be aware that each family makes its own rules and what is wrong for you isn't necessarily wrong for this other family.

Answer 7

those movies are rated pg 13 for a reason

and she is being wayy to lenient

Answer 8

You are doing a great job. Your daughter is in tune with your restrictions.  She could have stayed and watched TV and you would have not known. Never lower your standards of child rearing except to suit your children.

Rather than let them hang down at that neighbors, maybe have all the kids at your place.

Answer 9

No you're not too strict in my opinion! 8:30 is good for the 8 year old... maybe 9ish for the 11 year old. I wouldn't want my kids watching gory movies either. Just talk to them about why you don't like it. When I was 8 years old I had an interest in watching a gory movie (Child's Play) and my dad kept saying No, but finally I was so curious about it he watched it with me and made fun of the violence with me. It satisfied a need. BUT if they have no interest in it, then, no problem. I think you're doing a good job. You are not overprotective; just a good and cautious mama.

Answer 10

Hon, I do not mean to dis you. You need to take a stand.  Are your neighbors going to raise your children or are you? When your kids s***w up guess who is going to get the blame?  You have GOT to do what you feel is right. You will be the one who gets the blame. Good luck.

Answer 11

hanging outs fine but i wouldn't recommend sleep overs.

i don't think so i mean i used to think my mom was to strict on TV me and my sisters were allowed a few hours a week unless we were sick, but you no what I'm 16 and the youngest and know all three of us can watch TV when ever we want ...and we never do we have a nice one down stairs and i have never turned it on i haven't watched TV in a little over a year. i think Ur smart to get them in to good habits.

Answer 12

im a 13 year old probobly won mean much 2 u but i go to bed at 9:00 and i dont watch family guy you just care for your kids your a better mom than the other kids have your 8 year old is probobly going to defy you more and more even without knowing it and then he will regret it got to go to bed now but hope for the best!

Answer 13

You're an AWESOME PARENT! That other mother needs to get some good advice from you.

Obviously the other mom is too laid back and doesn't care about her kids' futures.

Of course you shouldn't let kids of that age watch Family Guy! And those movies, yeesh, I don't even watch those!

Thanks for being a great parent and caring about your kids.

Answer 14

having just got out of parents control its good. but your not being too strict your kids are 8 and 11 those bed times are appropriate, as for tv shows yea you shouldn't let them watch some of them and scary movies are NOT good for a child's development. hey i hate restrictions and i dont find them too bad.