Am I too young for high school?

Question

Hi people, I really need help!

Ok so heres the deal. I am like a year too early in school. I'm 13 and in the 8th grade when I should be in the 7th grade. And you guys know how this school year is almost over and if I pass I should be in the 9th grade. But my parents said I'm a year ahead and that I should be going into the 8th grade bye next school year! So you know how you start 9th grade in high school? Oh ya I'm home schooled too. Anyways, By next school year I should be going to high school but my mom and dad said I'm spending 9th grade home schooled and that in the 10th grade I'm going to high school. Only because I'm a year ahead. They say that I'm too young for high school! I feel cheated. And that it's a bit babyish to spend 9th grade HOME SCHOOLED! What do I do? I beg them to let me go to high school but they won't listen to me!! What do I do?? I really need help! Any answer is deeply appreciated! Thank you so much!!!! : D

Answer 1

Your parents are right dear. They don't want you at 13/14 to be in classes with 15/16 year olds.  As for it being babyish to be homeschooled for 9th grade - That's ridiculous. A lot of kids around here are homeschooled all the way through 12th grade and NEVER go to public school.

Answer 2

Wow.  I was homeschooled K-12.  Didn't know that was considered babyish.  Sheesh.  Thanks for telling me.  Actually, what you should do is continue homeschooling and possibly working ahead of where you 'should' be according to public school standards, and during your junior/senior years, take gen. ed. classes at a community college.  You will get classes out of the way, it will be cheaper than a university/private college, college recruiters love to see incoming students with previous college experience, and you will never regret getting ahead.  Trust me, it's what I did.  My only regret is that I did not take more gen. ed. classes during high school when I had more time.

Answer 3

In fact you are not too young at all because i have friend who is younger than me and he's a senior while im a junior anyways going to high school is such a great opportunity

yea there can be drama but all the things that happen during high school can prepare you for the real world

just tell your parents what a great opportunity it is plus if you enter during your tenth grade year you'll feel left out until you make friends better to start as a freshman also show your parents that you can make your own choices because in the end your going to have to make your own choices

Tell your parents to face the fact that you are growing and need to start being more independent

Answer 4

I'm sorry, I feel no pity for you.  I was home schooled all FOUR high school years.  I would have given anything to be able to go to school for just ONE year.  Even if it meant waiting until I was older.  However, that being said, I don't think you are too young.  Maybe you should give them some good reasons why you should go to high school.  Instead of just begging them, come up with some good reasons, or some good options and show them that you can be mature about this.  It will help to convince them that you ARE old enough.

Answer 5

First of all, I don't know why you think you're a year ahead: most gr. 8 students where I live are 13. Unless you just recently turned 13, students are typically 5 years older than their grade level. I'm sure there are plenty of 13yo's starting high school next year--contact high schools in your area and ask them how old students typically are when they start high school and if there are any who start when they're 13 and turn 14 during the year. If your parents see that others your age are going to be there, they might feel better about it.

Second, in terms of going to high school, if they are going to wait until 10th grade, ask them to make sure that your 9th grade work will count. There are lots of schools that will NOT recognize 9th grade work done through homeschooling and you would have to redo the grade.

Third, just because they won't agree to what you want to do doesn't mean they don't listen to you. Begging is not mature and is not a reasonable way to convince somebody. Most of all, however, you need to accept that your parents have the final say no matter what. Be mature about it, get your facts, present them without whining or begging and accept whatever decision they make. You are like the lower-down employee in a big company with an idea you think is great but the managers disagree. You can't go having temper tantrums or begging to get them to agree. If you do end up at home for next year, do NOT bear a grudge and spend the year miserable. Make the most of it. You'll only be causing yourself to suffer if you can't accept it, let it go and move on.

ADDED: It is NOT babyish to be homeschooled and if you think that way, maybe you aren't mature enough to go to school. There are people who are homeschooled all the way from K-12 and are mature, well-adjusted people. As long as you are concerned with judgements like that, you are at risk in a high school where judgements will be all around you and you will need to make the decision to do what's right or to do what will get you the most positive judgement.

Answer 6

I don't think 13 is too young for high school.  My daughter started at 12, and graduated at 14, but then she did home study.  She also started community college at 13.

But, then it does depend on the person, and maturity level.  If you feel babyish about homeschooling, then maybe you aren't ready for high school.

Talk to your parents calmly and rationally, tell them your perspective and try to understand theirs.  Ask them to have a meeting with you about it with just the 3 of you.  If you show them your maturity, perhaps they will change their minds.  

It is their decision ultimately, so it is in your best interest to learn to cope with whatever they choose.  Hopefully they will base the decision on you personally rather than an arbitrary idea of age.  

Good luck :d

Answer 7

Have you ever gone to school?  You're not missing anything.  You'd be better off to stay home and advance at your own pace.  My kids wouldn't return to school if their lives depended on it.  They're certainly not missing the "social" environment.  They've learned to interact on a higher level than drugs, bullies, s*x, profanity, violence, cliques, popularity, peer pressure and labels.  If you've been homeschooled all this time, you're going to find high school to be a major step down from the social and academic environment you're used too.  To those of you who take offense to this, feel free to thumbs down me.

Answer 8

You shouldnt be because im in 8th grade too and there are 13 year olds in my class in fact i just turned 14 april 16. You should be able to go to high school. You miss out on alot if you dont go like today i had an amazing speaker come and talk to us. It really was amazing it was R5 productions and you miss out on great things like that if you are home schooled. Our high school was going to go but they had finals or something. There should be no reason you are not going to High School. Go class of 2012!!!

Answer 9

Tell them that you must learn more commincation skills. Your are confined to just your home and no school friends. You also need to get some experience being around other people your age. Your gonna be in college in less than 4yrs so you could really use it. Mention the college dorm, making new friends, and experiencing the real world. Your parents are sheildingand babying you like some little child. Your a teen and you need to know how to make your own decisions.

Answer 10

yesss

Answer 11

I don't know which state you are in, but does your state have a "high-stakes" test (you have to pass it in order to graduate)? In Washington, it's the WASL. I'm going to homeschool my kids because this "test" is ridiculous!! It tests how a student thinks, not the knowledge!!

As for your age, one of my daughter's friends is 14 and is in 9th grade (she is like you--one year higher in education than she should be). M. does very well and has no issues with being among older kids because she is very mature for her age. It could be that your parents fear that your going to high school because, in their point of view (and perhaps your teachers), you are far too immature for high school and your parents want to give you a chance to catch up emotionally.

Listen to your parents. They know what's best for you and are not doing it to hurt you. They love you!!

Answer 12

Please, whatever your feelings are, DON'T feel cheated! Homeschoolers' educations are just as good--or better--than those of kids in public school, because they don't have to deal with drugs/etc. It is not babyish at all to homeschooled, it is a thing to be proud of. This is a homeschooler-for-life speaking; I'm about to graduate high school with a diploma with honors in English and Sign Language, plus I have a bunch of college credits under my belt as well. You can be just as involved in your community and with friends, without all the distractions. Your parents are offering you a privilege!!!