Am I too young to be a Maid of Honor or even a Bridesmaid at all?

Question

My big sister is getting married in 1 and a half years and I will be 14 years old when she gets married. I was the first one she told when she got engaged so I asked her if I could be a bridesmaid and her answer wasn't promising. I really want to be a part of her special day, but I don't want to be pushy. I also have herd of being a Junior Bridesmaid, but I think I'm too old for that. What can I do??? Please help!

Answer 1

Maid of honour or bridesmaid sounds good. It will depend on your sister tho as to whether she wants to have you as a maid. Are you her only sister?

Perhaps you could have a really discreet word in mums ear and ask her to say something to your sister to tell her that you would really be honoured to be in the wedding party.

If you have other sisters or your sister has several good friends or the groom to be also has sisters - you may have to just wait and see - it may be difficult for your sister to choose who will be a part of the party. If you cannnot be a part - accept it in good stead and ask if there is any other role that you could play and if not just enjoy your big sisters wedding and dream one day of your own  

Answer 2

Has she told you which role she wants you to fill? If not, don't borrow trouble =] My sister will be 14 when I get married next year, almost fifteen, and will be my Maid of Honor. I also have a Matron of Honor who will take the balk of the responsibilities. Likely, if your sister doesn't have a Matron, will ask the bridesmaids to help you out if you are Maid of Honor. You would e also the perfect age for a bridesmaid.

Answer 3

I became a godmother at 12! Why couldn't you be a maid of honor at 14? =)

Try talking to her about it!

Answer 4

No you are not to old to be a Junior Bridesmaid. Talk to her and let her know you don't want to be pushy but you just want to help out in some way. Let her know you care and stuff and want to be there in some way and help.

Anyway just talk to her. Maybe she is just so happy and stressed at the same time that she doesn't want to think about any of it right now.

Anyway good luck.

Answer 5

I think 14 is old enough to be a bridesmaid.  

Answer 6

You're old enough to be a bridesmaid, but remember that you may not be able to take part in every event (like her bachelorette party) and that you will have to be able to pay for the expenses, like your dress, shoes, having your hair and nails done for the wedding, etc. Being the maid of honor though comes with a TON of responsibility, so i don't think a 14-year-old is ready for that. The maid of honor is the one who takes the pressure off the bride, calling vendors for her if needed, coordinating meeting times with the rest of the bridal party, keeping the peace when disagreements arise, and just generally keep the bride as stress free as possible. That's a lot to ask of someone who isn't even old enough to drive!

Tell your sister exactly what you said here, that you really want to be a part of her special day. Ask her if there's anything you can do to help her with her wedding, like doing a reading during the ceremony, handing out programs to guests as they arrive, even being an usher (it doesn't HAVE to be a guy!). She may just want to make sure she only asks people to be bridesmaids who can afford it, or she may not want you to feel left out when they do things you are too young to do. But there are plenty of other things you can do if she's already set for bridesmaids.

Answer 7

well you CAN be maid of honour but that would be weird seeing as you can't plan (or attend) the bachelorette party and you can't sign the marriage certificate because you have to be 18 for that (it's a legal document) but you could be a brides maid. I was a junior brides maid at 14 but that was for my aunt who had 13 brides maids. So the title wasn't even important at that point.

don't push it though, it IS her choice, and a lot of people don't think the brides maids should be related as they see they should be close friends. (not everyone, but I have heard this before).  It is her choice so if she doesn't want you in it, be there support her, maybe find a nice poem and ask if you can read it at the ceremony.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Bridesmaids are supposed to be of marriageable age. In most states, 14 is too young to marry so you're too young to be a bridesmaid.

The maid of honor often signs as a witness. To legally be a witness, you need to be 18.

Bridesmaids and maids of honor are involved in planning showers and bachelorette parties. You're too young for that kind of responsibility.

You are, however, old enough to be a junior bridesmaid.

But none of it is your decision. It's up to your sister. The best way to help and support her is to let her do what she needs to do without putting your own wants in front of hers.

Good luck! Your sister is lucky that you want to be so involved in her wedding.

Answer 9

It doesn't matter if you're a bridesmaid or not, just be in the wedding, be there for her, and it'll mean just as much. You don't need a title to be part of her special day.

I know because when my sister got married (I was 20, she was 23), she had a small family wedding + some close friends... there was no bridesmaids, there was no maid of honor, no titles.

Just her closest family and friends and we were all part of her special day.

Answer 10

errr 14 is not at all too young to be a brides maid. i think you are just really nervous. take a chill pill. she will come around. you will grow heaps in the time between now and then.

youll be fine!

Answer 11

I think that your sister will ask you to be a bridesmaid, Especially since it sounds like there is quite an age difference between you two.  Dont get your hopes up on Maid of Honor, but I am sure you will play a HUGE part on your sister's big day ;)  Be there to support her and offer your input on anything she asks.

Answer 12

It's really not a matter of age, it's what your sister wants.  If she and her fiance want to have an even number of groomsmen and bridesmaids, and she ends up having to choose from too many friends, then she may decide that it's more appropriate to have you in a different role.  I am sure your sister will want you to be a part of her wedding day but please do not be hurt or offended if it is not as a bridesmaid or the maid of honor.  Just let her know that you want to be there for her and let her decide what is the best place for you.  Best of luck!