Am I turning into a slu.t?

Question

Boys never used to be too interested in me. Two weeks ago i lost my virginity at a party. Since then ive had s*x with another guy and done some other stuff with another guy. Should i slow down, am i turning into a slu.t?

Im 16 btw.

Answer 1

Are you WANTING to have s*x with these guys, or are you doing it our of a misguided attempt to be popular.

As long as you use precaustions against prgnancy and disease (real ones, not the ones your friends tell you work -- they don't), then you can do whatever you want.

But it's unwise to have s*x that you don't really want to have, or with guys you don't really want to have it with. You'll regret it.

Answer 2

Slow Down, In fact STOP

Sleeping with someone should be for the right reasons.

If you don't know what the reasons , You shouldn't be sleeping with them.

If you are sleeping with other 16 yr old's.

They are full of hormones at the moment. so will sleep with anything.

Answer 3

The people that gave long thoughtful responses to your question are the best people to listen to, but I want to add something, as a guy. This isn't meant to be hurtful, just to let you know how guys really feel. Women that sleep around are disgusting. It is gross. You make me want to puke. Quality guys do NOT end up with sl*ts. You'll end up settling down with a complete loser because that's the best you'll be able to do. Good luck! :)

Answer 4

you're young and having fun, just be very VERY careful. Even if you use protection, the condom could break and you could wind up pregnant anyway. You should see about getting on birth control (if your parents will freak at this request you can either go to planned parenthood on your own, or tell your parents that your periods have been really irregular and you want the birth control to regulate it so you'll know when to expect it and be prepared-thats how I got my dad to put me on it!)

Keep in mind that while you're having fun now, you may regret doing these things later on. I'm 23 now and I really regret a few of the things I did in the begining (not all of them but there are definatley a few I'd take back). Think about what you want in a boyfriend, would you want him to have messed around with a ton of girls? probably not, and I doubt many guys want a future with a girl who's been with lots of guys.

Good luck, and be safe!  

Answer 5

First of all I hope you were using protection! You need to S-L-O-W down you are still very young with your whole life ahead of you. I hate to crush you, but... these guys talk about how far they got with you with the hopes that other guys will also get lucky. Stay safe and your too young to be having s*x.

Confidence doesn't mean you need to have s*x. Confidence means you are comfortable with who you are.

Talk to your mom about this, she needs to know. You should get on birth control to protect you from being a young mother.

I'm sorry people can be so insenitive to others feelings.(I'm talking about the answers above mine)

Answer 6

It does sound like you're moving a bit fast.   And you may be right, it may be your looks or your confidence that has the guys interested in you.  Or it could be that word has gotten out how easy you are and they're simply lining up for a chance at it.  Think about it.    If this is the kind of person you want to be, okay, but if you want a little more self respect and independence, you need to slow down and stop being so quick to put out.

Answer 7

Next time you want to have s*x, I want you to think about God.

You are breaking his Commandments, and you NEED to repent.

Answer 8

You say no one knows, but I hate to tell you that guys talk to each other and no one else about who they've slept with.  Whether or not word has gotten around may not be something you would know.

When you know word has gotten around, it will have spread so far, you'll never live it down.

You are definitely on the wrong track.  Two guys in two weeks is a lot for anyone, but it's even worse since you just lost your virginity.  

I hate to say this, but, if you keep this up, you will be considered a slu.t by anyone's standards.  You might be considered one right now, depending on who you ask.

What you need is one partner to explore your sexuality with.  It's called a P***k buddy.  That way you're not sleeping around but you're still able to express and enjoy your newfound joy in s*x.  Always use protection, of course, but this is much safer than just sleeping around with anyone who makes you horny.

True confidence can be determined just as much by what we don't do as what we do.  I'm confident enough in my own sexuality not to sleep around, despite the fact that I'm attractive, smart, and pursued by others.  Yes, I'm married, but I know too many women just as married as me who don't have my confidence.  I don't have to prove my own confidence or validate it by being promiscuous.

Answer 9

this **** is so funny......lol

Answer 10

I don't think you sound arrogant, but I do think you sound naive.  Many boys are interested in having s*x with girls, and it is only natural that such boys would be very interested in girls who are known to be available for sexual intercourse and other sexual activities.  You have indeed become more confident, because you are now popular with the boys.  However, you are fooling yourself if you think you are more popular now because you are prettier than before.  How much prettier could you have gotten in the two weeks since you've become sexually active?

If you are truly confident, it is very easy to test why the boys are now more interested in you.  It's simple.  Stop doing anything sexual with boys for a while, and see if they continue to be as interested in you.  I don't mean a day or even a week.  Try a month, at least.

Slu.t is just a label.  If you are a slu.t, then so are the boys who are having s*x with multiple partners in short periods of time.

Seriously, do you even care if you are turning into a slu.t?  Instead of worrying about labels, focus on more important things instead.  Use condoms, and remember that there is no such thing as safe s*x.  Condoms break.  Accidents happen.  And, if "some other stuff" includes oral s*x, the likelihood is the boy is not wearing a condom, and you can catch STDs.  Trust me.  Herpes, gonorrhea, and other STDs won't make you prettier, and boys will lose interest if you get an STD and they know it.

Show some self-love, self-respect, and self-control, please.  Good luck.

Answer 11

Yes. You sound a lot like my EX. She was your age when she cheated on me with three guys (one after another). She defended herself, saying that she was a lot more confident and felt like doing it. Don't you realize how immature this behavior is? You're only shooting yourself in the foot. You're placing your self-worth on how many guys will have s*x with you. Pathetic.

Answer 12

16??  slept with 2 guys in 2 weeks.  sounds like an unpaid w***e to me! what I mean is that there are way too many children having children in this world! and sooner or later you will be one of those people!

  You'll find that when you have s*x w/someone you ACTUALLY love, it will be so much better, and geez, get some birthcontroll if you continue to be easy! and use a condome!

Get yourself some respect!

Answer 13

your not yet a sl.ut sorry for the word.. but it looks like your headed that way.. i suggest you think about your decisions.. :) good day.

Answer 14

If you have to ask the answer is probably yes. Sadly.  

Answer 15

honey u answered the question urself u need to stop. Ur making a S****y bed for urself and ur going to have to lie in it... so stop. i know i sound like an old hag when i say this but its too painfully true that u should not ignore it u have to love urself and ur body. the guy u have s*x with should be worthy of the special person u are. u just said u are more confident and are prettier dont u deserve better? and u do honey don't start this c**p now, u got ur whole life to deal with relationshitts, s*x, men, hormones, babies, boyfriends, booty calls, etc... now is the time to be happy and care free. enjoy other things in life not s*x. love urself more honey u know that in the bottom of ur heart that what u are doing is wrong so stop it. next time u have s*x it should be with a wonderful guy that loves and respects u and u should be some good 5 or 6 years older as well.... im speaking from experience here, love urself honey if u don't who will or who would want to?  

Answer 16

  Yes you are turning into a s**t.  Better watch out that you don't get knocked up w/ a little b*****d.  Get an education and stop whoring around.

Answer 17

Stop now and ask yourself exactly why you did what you have done over the last couple of weeks. This sort of behavior can become a habit real quick and I'm sure you know the repercussions that go along with it, so I won't go into that. In a few years you'll regret your behavior if you continue. As much as you enjoy the attention, it's not the sort of attention you can be proud of.