Am I unreasonable to be upset?6 year old problem?

Question

My son who is 6 years old and in first grade took without permission 5 brand new perfumes and gave them away in school.He goes in a small private school,15 kids in his class in total and he did this in front of the teacher(he gave her one perfume too).When I say private school,I live in Latin America in a working class area and schools here are cheap.

I am saying this because we don't have a lot of money just like most of the kids there and the perfumes were suppose to bring me extra income.This happen 3 weeks ago.I went looking for them 2 days ago and my son told me what he did.What I am very upset about is that none of the parents or the teacher told me he was giving away this stuff.They thought I was crazy to expect them to ask before accepting expensive gift from a 6 year old.Am I missing something or they are right to blame me?

By the way,I asked for the perfumes back and all,including the teacher "used" them up in 3 weeks....

Answer 1

I think you should really chill out. He was doing a nice thing, well trying to be nice do you really think he would have done it if he knew you would flip like this! Tell him it was wrong and go on with your business thats what happens when you have children! Welcome to motherhood.

Answer 2

He is a 6 yr old child who was trying to be nice. It's not him you should be annoyed with or grounding, it's the teacher/parents who have done wrong. They are adults and should act as such. Even if they did accept the present so as not to upset your son, they should have contacted you to make sure it was ok. Please don't be too angry with him, let him know that he did wrong, but if you make too much of it he might stop being nice to people, which would be a great shame.

Answer 3

Wow.. Calm down. Your kid was just trying to be nice and make friends. So what if he took some perfume, even if you were trying to sell it. Its not like he did it just to make you mad. hes six years old! Come on..

Answer 4

First of all why would your boy want to get rid of perfume and the teacher thing she should be fired!!!

Answer 5

What your son did was wrong but what the teacher did was a disgrace! your son is only a small child and was trying to impress his friends or was hoping to be accepted by them..but the adults should never have taken these things without finding out where he got them from...it's the adults that should be grounded.!!..I would not be to hard on your son ..just make him understand what he did was wrong..but I would tell the adults what they did was very very wrong.

Answer 6

they are in the wrong not you

Answer 7

First, how did he get a hold of something that you had wanted to sell?  He was trying to be nice.  Too many folks have forgotten how to do that.  If the perfume was that important to you, why did it take you three weeks to notice they were missing?

As for the people that he gave the perfume to, they should not have accepted an expensive gift from a 6-year old.  They should also have at least let you know.