Am I weak if I don't argue with those who pose a threat?

Question

I notice that the people who tend to actually TRY and get into arguments with me are those I don't care for and generally walk away or ignore...

...while I see myself defending to the MOON with loved ones/ close friends...I also notice they don't pose a threat...

Is there a correlation there and am I weak that I don't argue with those who try to rile me up (especially because I do have comebacks or ways to defend myself, yet I don't since I truly think it's wasted time and/or that there motive is to just rile me up - although I could be wrong)

Answer 1

It is a waste of time. I've said it before and I'll say it again: no one is in here to listen.

It's sad really. There is so much hate in the world it makes you want to throw up your hands and give up, but there are good people out there. Those in here and out there like to ruffle feathers, pure and simple. They get off on the anonymity of the Internet and spout their hate in a such a fashion without really any repercussions.

To heck with them! And you are not weak for not arguing. You are using good judgment and poise by letting them spew their c**p and walking away. It's not worth giving them that power of letting them know they've gotten to you.

Answer 2

Arguing with morons is an exhausting, thankless job.

Answer 3

No you're not weak. There is no point arguing with idiots who don't want to objectively listen to you.

It's a waste of time to do so.

Answer 4

well dont argue whit  those kind of people ..

just walk away

or dont lisend to then

Answer 5

Sometimes being non confrontational is just the wise thing to do.

Why waste the energy if the issue is unimportant to you.

Why fight a fight you're sure to lose.

But if you feel as though you are betraying yourself by not standing up, you'd be wise to change your ways.

That type of thing can take it's toll and can lead to a bottle neck of stress.

Answer 6

You don't care-its a waste of your time in your opinion. you argue with people you care about beacseu that's just it. they matter to you.

people you hate, you don't have to even respect.

Answer 7

Your question indicates lucid personal insight.  How refreshing.  You already know the answer if you've gotten this far, if you've become this aware of the DIFFERENCE in your responses.  You're just chewing on the concept some.  Whatever your reason, remember there's wisdom in walking away from psychologically violent situations or moments,  WISDOM, not just sensible safety behavior.  The wisdom in walking away from what riles us is we cannot be "riled" if there was not something not quite righteous about our own standpoint.  (There were three negatives in that sentence.  I don't think I've ever done that before.  It works, though, doesn't it, grammatically?)

Take your unusally lucid self insight and mature it into a conscious behavior of ASSUMING, just hypothetically, that everytime something riles you that you may be wrong.  It is wise to make a practice of that retreat, shut up immediately, gather up the skirts of your dignity and whoosh out of the situation to retreat and go through the wise practice of rationally, lucidly honestly re-evaluating your position from multiple perspectives, all the while letting go of the mere physiological anger response so that your brain isn't gorked with the savageries caused by negative emotions.  Then, staunch-up the evidence in your mind to support your perspective.  That staunching-up skill or modifying one's perspective logically on the hoof especially is what I pay people about $50,000 annually more than I pay others equally otherwise qualified.  It's intellect-building, the practice of doing that lucid re-trench.

There are many reasons why people retreat from threats, mostly rational reasons, if you think about it. My personal reason for walking immediately from a threat is not because I feel endangered but because I have always been unusually tall and athletic and hot tempered and I am terribly afraid I'll just strangle unrighteous necks or something, not "necessarily" as though I've ever done anything like that, like on local TV in front of my own children or anything absolutely politically career-ending like that.

Answer 8

I worked with a fellow one time that would "stir up the pot", he would say for the reasoning in his mind, because this was the way that his father had raised him, and had commented to him "Son always remember this" kind of words of man's wisdom, "Any time things are going smooth, then some thing is working in the back ground that needs to be stirred up! So stir it up to keep balance" With 3 warnings he was fired for those ways and words of wisdom from his father. People behave in the manner that they were taught in. And through his "stirring up the pot", there where people that quite, and there were many folks that were ill with other co-workers, for the ( I got a secrete to tell you what so, and so said about you.) kind of thing. The Bible says that there is nothing new under the sun.  Ecclesiastes 1:9..."The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun" Well the evil still remains in man does it not?  God Speed to ya.

Answer 9

Arguing with an idiot is hopeless ~ they'll get you all worked up, then beat you with experience.

Save your energy for constructive stuff. Arguing and debating with people you care about is part of a healthy relationship, it's natural and good value to put work into it!

Cheers :-)

Answer 10

It is a waste of time, life, breath, etc

Your way more mature than them & smarter, let them run around talking their smack itll catchup to them sooner or later, if it be a week a month a year itll get em and itll get em good.

Dont even go that low to subject yourself to their idiocracy