Am I weird for worrying bout fiance's past?

Question

weve been together for over a year, engaged to be married, and expecting a child together. were pretty much from the same area, and let me add, a very small area, everyone knows everyone kinda deal. i love her so very much with all my heart, and if anyones ever been in love theyll understand this...shes the purest, most innocent thing in the world to me. but way before we were together, she had lots of guy friends, went to the bars , and etc. ive pretty much cleared the air and worries that she never slept around much, but just the point ya know. i even work with a guy who was in the circle of friends from way back, which makes things awkward. am i overly-paranoid and worrying myself too much, or is this normal, and plz, given my level of stress, im open for any suggestions to ease my mind,lol

Answer 1

I think you may be worrying a little too much.  Everyone has a past and that can not be changed.  You should be focusing on her future with you not the things she may or may not have done before you.  She obviously loves you if you are engaged so focus on that.  Not to mention your unborn child.  Build new memories, better memories, and leave her past where it belongs......in the past.

Good Luck to you!!

Answer 2

she wasn't even with you in the past so why does it matter

Answer 3

You're engaged with a child on the way....... and you are just NOW beginning to wonder about her past?  I think you should just keep going in the direction you're already headed.  If you love her, her past shouldn't matter too much.  If you were newly introduced to this girl, I'd understand your hesitation, but you're engaged.  Stop worrying so much and get on with your lives.

Answer 4

The past is gone and you can do nothing about it. Worrying about it is a sign of insecurity. If you cannot trust your gf, then you shouldn't be dating her let alone, having children, until you have established security within yourself.

A part of a relationship is about trust. She stayed with you, has a child with you and plans to marry you. What more do you want? If she's everything to you as you say she is, then you must forget was was and concentrate on what will be. Stop worrying. It's all trivial.  

Answer 5

do you plan to have a future with her?  Or a past? ....