Am I worrying about nothing?

Question

About 4 years ago I found out that my partner was texting and sending pictures to women on these s*x text lines. After confronting him and hearing his reason that he wasn't doing it to hurt me, it was just a s*x thing, I forgave him. However he did it again and again and the last time he swore he wouldn't do it anymore. He hasn't got a mobile anymore but I have this gut feeling that he has had s*x with other women while he has been away. You see, he admitted to me when we first got together that he had done this to his ex so am I right to go with my gut feeling?

Answer 1

Dump him as fast as you can. This kind of behavior is not only unacceptable but very unlikely to change.

Answer 2

Don't jump to conclusions..... but if you have a gut feeling about something you're probably right. If he reasoned himself out of sending raunchy texts, then he will try to reason himself out of having s*x with other women.  This guy sounds like bad news, but  if you are committed to making it work with him, he may have a deeper issue that lies with his infidelity.  

Answer 3

As hard as it is to say, I say go with your gut. My mom wasted to much time with my dad by NOT going with her got and trusting him. And years later I am the one that catches him, his son. Anyways that was a little bit of venting but I would say go with your gut. And I am sorry.

Answer 4

You've given your approval to his behavior for 4 years. Its not fair of you to change the rules now.  

Answer 5

Gut feelings are not always right. Confront him about this. But do it in a gentle way, not in an accusing manner.

If there is no trust in a relationship, it is much better if you two could go into counselling.

Answer 6

i think i would be suspicious too he seems to have a rutine of lying to u over and over maybe he has a problem and needs help if u take away the phone perhaps he will just find another way to get his fix? have u asked him about it?