Am I worrying to much on having everything for babies arrival?

Question

So My baby girls baby shower is Sunday.

I have a baby registry, and it was said in the invitations that my mother sent out where it was.

I go on-line and check it, to see if it needs updating, or if I'm getting the things we NEED!

We have a crib, and that's it.. lol.

I understand how expensive things are, but my husbands family has more then enough money to go around. And it seems the only person who even got anything we need is my mother who bought the stroller and car seat.

I just hope that they all understand the things we need.

That's the reason for having a registry, and so people don't show up with the same things. I mean gas is crazy and we would like not to go 45 minutes out of our way to exchange things..

Am I wrong? I really hope I'm not sounding rude.

It's my first baby, and I just want to make sure we will have everything we need for at least the first months.

There is only 9 weeks until my due date, the baby shower is this weekend. Im trying not to worry until then, but I don't understand why people are not using the registry.

My husbands parents told him they will make sure we have everything, if we don't get it.. but that just makes me feel odd. I know they have the money, but that stuff is expensive.

Answer 1

I would setup registry and ask your family members to pick items asap from the registry first before you make it public.  That is what we did and we then removed the items picked from the registry.  All the essential stuff was purchased by family or ourselves. You shouldn't rely on others to pickup items on registry if anything is left.

BTW, my wife's parents also promised to buy everything in the registry that wasn't purchased but didn't (nor did we ask them afterwards).  So, it was a good thing we had asked them to purchase a gift (car seat) even before the registry was setup, which they did.  During our baby shower, i think we got 70% of the items in the registry from friends or gift certificates to buy these.  The other 30% we didn't really need.

BTW, for the first month, the only thing you really need is car seat, stroller, diapers, some clothes / wash clothes, formula (if not breastfeeding), bathing  and safety essentials.  A bassinet or co-sleeper is more important as crib is unlikely to be used for first 2-3 months.  The rest is all extra.

Good luck.

Answer 2

aww dont worry PLEASE!! i was the same exact way..a first mom always is..but u owe it to urself and ur baby to stay calm for her. and lets see i had about 50 people at my shower and guess how many went on the registry like 4 and one of those is cuz i told my gram exactly what i wanted and where to find it..people just think its too difficult to log on and print it out they really dont know how easy it it..and some just like to suprise u with a gift from the heart and like she said things will just come together just make sure with in a few weeks u have:

her bassinet,clothes,bottles(i suggest the ones with drop-ins)bottle cleaner if regular bottles,diapers/wipes,baby bath/body wash,washcloths/towels,blankets,CAMERA/V... RECORDER,stroller/car seat..it best helps to print out a new baby checklist..just google it and find the list that u like best..it all has the same stuff just differnt formats ther are super helpful and will relieve u once u see all those checks and dont worry about the amounts of items just make sure u have enough for about a week cuz hey thats what washer and dryer are for..make sure to have at least 8 bottles soo u wont constantly be washing them cuz they will go through them fast

all that good stuff is what u need the most and hey my fiances family was just the same they kept telling me ohh ill get it next week..ill get it next week until i only had a couple weeks left to go..but now that he is here they have never been better they buy him everything even without me telling them..soo im sure urs will also come around..goodluck and congrats on ur little girl..take lots of pics and videos cuz they grow and change soo fast!!

Answer 3

Don't stress..... you may find that people wait to the last minute to shop.  You may also be surprized to see that you get more then you thought.... of what you need.  Several times.... people don't even look at the registry..... and other times...... people look at the registry.... but find it hard to compare that to the items in the store..... registrys can be hard to use sometimes...... and they just end up getting you a similar product.  And other times.... people don't use the registry correctly.... and forget to to have the cashier remove the item from the registry.  Don't stress.... your baby shower will prove that you won't be as empty handed as you may think.  And honestly..... babies don't need a whole lot there first few months of life.  You have the crib..... you have the carseat.....  now all the other things you need aren't so much.... just some outfits.... a few blankets.... a pacifier..... diapers.... wipes..... and thermometer.   Everything will come together just fine..... and in a few weeks you will be stressing out on with to do with all the baby things you have...... Best of luck to you and congrats.

Answer 4

We don't have anything like this in England.  We just get the stuff we need ourselves!

Answer 5

Very few people buy off registries, and even if they do, they don't mark it off as purchased. People will get you what they do, and just be grateful for what you do get. A gift is a gift, and it is a lot more fun for someone to pick out some cute outfits and toys then get you something off a list.

Usually you will need to go out and buy a lot of the stuff yourself. That is normal when having a baby.

All you *need* for the first few months of life is the carseat, crib, diapers, and a few outfits. All the other stuff is just "nice to have"

Answer 6

Most people used my registry but it was never updated online..I was like you and checking all the time! At my shower we somehow ended up with everything (and more!) than what we needed. I think you should calm down and just see how the shower goes. It all works out somehow...it always does ;)

Answer 7

Speaking from experience. Most people just use the registry as a guide to see what you don't have. I have 3 kids. My insane family and friends have a shower every time I have a baby. I  have 5 years between  each of my kids. And trust me it never hurts to have extras I didn't have to buy diapers for 3 months on my last one. I got 2 strollers and 2 pack-n-plays. I left one of each at my mom's house. That's less I have to haul back and forth. Trust me it's a major deal going to visit family you pretty much feel like your moving in every time. The doubles actually help it's less you have to carry back and forth , and doubles of toys keep them too. You never know which one becomes a favorite and if it breaks. O.M.G....I was always lucky enough to have my kids love the toy's that get discontinued or hard to find. You can also never have enough clothes I was lucky enough to get a double on an outfit that my one daughter looked so cut in. The first time she wore it it got messed up and I couldn't get the stain out...thank goodness I had the back up.So don't stress that your going to get doubles to return. It will work out you'll get every thing or most of what you'll need and plenty you don't need. You can always use freecycle for things you get and don't need. You'll find freecycle in your area on yahoo groups. Pass on your good fortune to people who can really use the stuff.  

Answer 8

You should not count on other people spending their money to buy you things you think you need.

Answer 9

"I really hope I'm not sounding rude."

I'm sure that you sound reasonable to the average American, but where I am from -- we take responsibility for our own children and don't write lists of things for people to buy for us, then complain when people don't get exactly what we want.

Answer 10

I think you are too worried. But that's okay, because I was the same exact way. In the end, everything was fine.

You can't really rely on the baby registries because not a lot of people go by that. It's called being lazy. They'd much rather go out and buy something they think is cute or that you'll need instead of go through a list of items and look for it.

It's kind of hard to tell you not to worry, because I know you can't help but worry. So just try to relax. I'm sure everything will be okay.

Answer 11

Just talking from my own experience here - Most people did not buy off my registry.  I think a total of 3 people bought off the registry and I had two showers.

But I did end up with mostly everything I needed, somehow.  

Just relax and enjoy yourself!  Stop worrying so much, things will come together.

Answer 12

that is why you don't do a register as to you come across some people as rude and telling them what to buy and some people feel like they are being told what to buy and will end up not coming to the shower cause they feel as they are being told what to bring

as just cause they have tons of money don't mean they can buy what you want

but just wait till after the shower and then go buy what you need

most people will not go by a register only reason them things are there is for people who are telling people either bring this or don't come

i think they are not a good idea cause some people don't have the money to afford the stuff you put on there

as you had the stroller and carseat on there i am glad your mom got that but i wanted to choose my own when we had our little girl

i just wanted small things like bath items and things as i wanted to buy everything else so i had what i wanted