Am I wrong for thinking like this?

Question

My sister has been on medication for depression before - she was being bullied at work and went on stress leave and was seeing a counsellor. She's now been weaned off her medication and was doing better, until this guy she had been seeing for a couple of weeks (but they had been friends for about a year) totally blew her off. Now she's depressed again! I don't want to see her go back on the pills because I feel like she should be able to cope and can't just go back on medication every time something goes wrong. Am I wrong in thinking like this? Short of beating the living daylights out of him, what else can I do?

Answer 1

I understand what you mean, your just looking out fo her best interest and your right she can't go on the medication everytime something goes wrong that is where the therapy shoud help her, did she learn any copeing skils when she was going??, as I think when you go to therapy they teach you how to control your emotions and how to get past bad situations without plumiting so low that you end up depressed again. I hope she can continue the counceling instead of the meds, maybe put her on some herbal stuff?

There is nothing you can do about the guy, I think he has a right to chooose not to date your sister anymore, perhaps her emotional state was too much for him to handle, she either has to tell people she dates in advance that she is sick so they are aware of her moods or the reason why she may be down some says and better the next.

I really think your sister needs to get the help first and learn to cope with things like this before she dates anyone else cos there will be other times when her relationships don't work and she needs to learn to how to cope without crumpbeling down.

I hope I helped you. My BF  has depression so i now what it's like to be with somone who has it, I would not trade him for the world he is loving, kind and wonderful, as i'm sure your sister is. I do feel therapy has really helped him be more happy about life. Take care.

Answer 2

you obviously care about ur sister, n u dont want her to be emotionally weak. so ur not at all wrong thinking like this. well you need to make sure she's not alone in any situation. i mean she needs a shoulder to cry on. then you can probably confront her and talk to her whenever she's low. you can take her out for movies with some friends, or go clubing, shopping or just make her socialise.. when things go well, you can maybe find a good guy whom she can date... tk cr n good luck! :)

Answer 3

youre so not wrong.

in my opinion, you have every right to feel like she should be able to cope and that she shouldnt be on medication everytime something goes wrong. you need to let your sister know that she needs to stop using medicine to make her life easier and start carrying her own weight.

plus, the things shes been depressed about are not even worth getting depressed over..

let her know you care about her and that you know shes a lot stronger than this.

because she is.

everyone is.

Answer 4

If you don't want to see her have to go back on the pills again then do what you can to bring her out of that depression.  Some people are prone depression so it won't always help but if you can, get some friends together and take her out as much as possible.  Find a new "man" friend for her to take her mind off the other.  Even if it's just to cheer her up, it should help. But if the depression goes on, she might need to seek help again.  I am an advocate for behavioral/cognitive thinking therapy rather then drugs for every little problem as well.

Answer 5

i don't believe your  wrong. this stuff happens all the time. and medication shouldn't be given to her every time she gets sad. these things need work. if it helps her...try having a "feel sorry for yourself" day with her. rent a couple love movies, buy a tub of ice cream and just sit on the couch in your pajamas all day. she'll feel better eventualy and get back out in the dating world.

Answer 6

Theres no better way to get over a man than with another man! Find someone for her to date, or put her profile on a dating site, the dates will be a distraction. Unless she doesnt get any responses. She had only been seeing him a couple WEEKS, so she should be doing better soon.