Am I wrong for thinking that a parent shouldnt allow her younger child to bring candy to school every day?

Question

My child goes to a small school district that doesn't have school buses and the parents pick up there kids. A parent allows her younger child to bring a bag of candy to school everyday to pass out to the other kids while we wait for the school to get out. I think once a week on fridays or maybe once on a while is fine, but not everyday. I don't allow my kids to have alot of candy and when I tell them no that they can't have any that day, they have actually thrown fits over it. I have voiced my opinion about it to her and to some of the other parents, but nothing has changed. Am I the one that is being wrong for thinking the way I do? Or is it her that shouldn't be allowing her kid to bring all that candy?

Answer 1

If you have talked to the other parent and not gotten any results, try something new.  Give your kids sliced apples, oranges or another kind of fruit in little bags.  They will have something sweet and healthy to snack on while you are waiting.  If that doesn't work, wait until the kids come out of the school to get out of the car.  Good luck.

Answer 2

I wouldn't be happy with someone handing out candy to my child either, but I don't think there really is anything you can do, she will send the kid with candy regardless.Just make sure your child is aware you don't want him/her eating it all the time. Hopefully they will catch on to your better eating habits...

Answer 3

If I was in your position, I'd talk with that parent.

I'd be okay with them having candy for THEIR child, but not my own. (( If their kid's teeth gets screwed up, not my fault. ))

Answer 4

You should be talking to the school's Principal about this. Too many kids have allergies and right now fitness and eating healthy should be a major concern at school. At this age the principla should understand saying no to your kids when everyone around them is doing it doesn't always work. And what a bad way to start off their school day. I would be very firm in talking to the school's authorities about this

Answer 5

You can't control what other people do with their children.  You can only make rules for your children.  It sounds to me that the real issue is that you don't want to deal with your kids throwing fits.  While that is perfectly understandable, you can't expect the entire world to conform to your rules just so your kids won't get mad and have temper tantrums.  You need to teach your kids that no means no and that tantrums aren't allowed, then you won't have to worry about whether someone else's kids have candy or not.

Answer 6

try telling the parent that you appreciate the effort, but u're afraid of sugar overload and rotting teeth. suggest the child give out raisins, apple slices, tangerines, peanut butter cracker packets or something else that's healthier. that way the parent can continue doing what he/she does, the kids can still get their snacks, and you're not worried about teeth and fat.

Answer 7

no your not wrong, i believe once a week is perfectly fine

Answer 8

Stop being nice about it. TELL HER not to have her kid bring candy to the school.  Some people are fools and you just can't be nice about it.

Answer 9

talk to the principal and that child's parents; kids should not be allowed to pass out food to everybody on school grounds.

The health concerns of parents should be given first priority.

Answer 10

it is her.talk to her

Answer 11

You can't control what other parents kids do, just your own.  Make sure you teach your kids it is NOT acceptable to accept candy from people you do not approve of... NO EXCEPTIONS.  This is not just a behavior issue, its a big safety issue for them as well.

By going through the other parent, principal, teacher, kid, you are just taking the easy way out and not making your kids mind and behave YOU in a way to keep them safe.  This is a very important lesson they need to learn.  Tantrums never hurt any child, can't say the same about accepting candy from strangers.

Answer 12

It sounds like you are standing there when the kid is handing out the candy, right?  If so, I would simply say "no thank you," and not let your kid have it.  Kids need to learn that different parents have different rules.   I was at a birthday party yesterday where the moms were opening up soda cans left and right and handing them out to preschoolers.  I told my daughter "We don't drink soda," and that was the end of it.  Explain to your child that too much candy will make his teeth rot and you will happily fix him a snack at home.  So what if they throw a fit.  Imagine the fit they'll throw when it's time to fill a cavity.  I totally agree that this mom shouldn't let her kid hand out candy..  Sounds like she's going to do it no matter what.  Surprisingly, there may be some parents who think it's a nice gesture.  So, the only thing you can really control is what goes into your kid's mouth.  Forget about contacting teachers and principals...they have bigger fish to fry.  I'm with you on this one, but I would just say no to my own kid and let that be the end of it.