Am I wrong for wanting lo leave without telling my parents about the baby?

Question

I'm having a baby my mom said if I get pregnant she's kicking me out I already know where to live and the money and stuff. Me and my Fiance think I should just runaway instead of telling her. I was going to leave a note telling her all of the details and stuff. What do you think? Should I leave a note or just tell them and leave? What about me being a teenage mother?

Answer 1

Think about how you would feel if your child grew up and did the same thing..... It would hurt beuond words. Parents say stuff to try and scare you, but in the end they might be mad  but they might also try an understand. It would be the cowards way out to just leave. If u are having a baby you need to learn to be responsible, also having a baby young you are going to need your parents more than ever. Dont do something you will live to regret

Answer 2

well, if you know your mom is going to kick you out, and if you are leaving anyway, then what is the harm in telling her?  perhaps she was only telling you she would kick you out to scare you into not having s*x or to always practice safe s*x.  if you are pregnant, then you should tell your mom anyway, despite what she may say.  wouldn't you want to know if you were in your mom's shoes?  your mom may just do an about face and be the stable rock you need during your pregnancy; after all, she is your mom, and carried you in her body for so many months and raised you.  no matter how angry she may feel, she will still love you.  please do not run away, because if you are under 18, your parents can call the police and list you as a runaway, and that is not really a good thing.  best to talk to your mom about it, and if you are engaged and everything, then things won't be easy, but just a little easier if your fiance is going to do his share of taking care of you and the baby.  you will need all the help you can get as a parent, especially as a teenage parent.  if you are doing the best you can, and stay in school (are you in school?  how old are you exactly?) then you are doing the right thing to provide for yourself (by way of education) and for your child, if your fiance cannot support you both or things don't work out.  i wish you all the best, and please, talk to your mom!!

Answer 3

i actually learned this from my law studies class in high school.

if you legally live in the house, no one can kick you out without legally evicting you through the court system. I don't know if you were really apt on staying or not, but if you don't want to leave thats what you can tell her.

I think that you should talk to her and tell her whats going on, and that you already know the consequences, and you have found a place to live and such. Just tell her, she won't worry as much.

And you being a teenage mother is going to be hard, but if you know what you are doing, you can pull through it, just keep you and your fiance together, hopefully he can support both you and the baby.

good luck though.

you'll need it.

Answer 4

If you are underaged that is a bad move. Not only can she call the police but I think she can legally have your baby aborted. It would be better to just tell her you were pregnant and you know that she's going to kick you out and that you have made plans like a responsible person should. That way maybe down the line she'll forgive you and help you if you need it.  

Answer 5

talk to her about it first, if she proceedes to kick you out, then so be it, but dont until she makes you...

Answer 6

You would definitely prove to your mom that you are more responsible if you sat her down and had a conversation about the baby.. Let her know that you know she is disappointed and that she wanted differently for you.. but.. a baby is not the end of the world.. you are with your fiance.. you have a plan.. and let her know the plan.. involve her in your choices and allow her to feel like she has options.. trust me.. its harder in the beginning.. but it will get easier.. This will be WW3 if you just up and leave.. not only taking her teenage daughter away.. but a future grandbaby.. she'd hate the fiance too.. He might want to be there when you tell her too.. Just to prove to her that he is in this for the long haul.. trust me.. you have much bigger fish to fry in about 9-10 months.. than telling your mom.. let this time before baby be as peaceful as possible...

prove to her you can handle this..

Answer 7

if your of legal age, go. let her worry  for a days and when you tell her she'll be happy to see you and she might not think the pregnancy might be so made. good luck. and congrats  

Answer 8

Well you're mother cant legally kick you out unless you are 18. But i say you just tell her..b/c if she's just gonna kick you out..at least that way you wont get into any trouble..cuz if you just leave..you can get caught and put into juvie. and you dont want that..so just tell her..she might be more understanding than you think..you might not even have to leave.

Answer 9

you should definitely tell her. how would you feel if your daughter just left u without even saying goodbye? just explain things to her. if you're under 18 years old she can make you come home anyway.

Answer 10

I think, since you are determined to leave anyway, to talk to her before. Nothing will change and you will have your conscience in peace that you have not left your family out of it. It's up to them how they are going to handle the situation after your announcement.

As far as being a teenage mother is concerned, there is not much advice I can give you since I had my children after the age of 30. Motherhood is a difficult situation in any age. If you want to be a responsible parent, try to arrange your life and schedules along with the baby's. Good luck!

Answer 11

how old are you... if you are under 18 you mom can make you come back, even if you are having a baby that will not be ok in the eyes of the law to leave your house with out her permission..sorry..

leaving the note is good, do not let her worry, even tho she will..

maybe you should tell them.. if they get mad and make you leave at least you have a place to go to, if they don't you will still be at home.  

Answer 12

Why don't you stop being immature and talk to your mother about what's going on.  Believe it or not you will need her sooner or later.

Answer 13

Tell her, your leaving anyways so what's the big deal.. Don't cause unnecessary drama that you don't need.