Am I wrong in this situation or is my mother right for not talking to me?

Question

My good friend surprised me for my 26th birthday and sent me a ticket to New Orleans to go hang out with him for four days. I am insanely excited because I have always wanted to go to New Orleans and think this is an awesome birthday gift.

Well I called my mom to see if she would puppy sit while I was out of town and when I told her my plans, she completely freaked out on me and is mad that I am going. She finally agreed to watching my puppy and taking me to the airport but now she in not talking to me.

I don't feel like I am doing anything wrong and I just want to enjoy my first vacation in two years and a great birthday present.

Am I wrong for wanting to go or is my mom just being insane?

Her reasoning for being mad is that she doesn't like my friend. She feels that I am lowering myself by associating with him.

I think he is a sweetheart and he treats me very well.

Answer 1

Your mom is being ridiculous you are 26 years old.  You can make your own decisions with who you want to be friends with.  You aren't asking any ridiculous demands.  

Answer 2

You're not wrong, and neither is your mom. Your mom just doesn't feel safe with you around him probably. Afterall, you are her daughter so she will be a bit protective over you still even if you're all grown up. You can't control who likes who, and your mom just happens to not like your friend that is taking you to New Orleans.  

Answer 3

Your 26.  Don't rely on your mum for babysitting duties.  You should have put the dog in a kennel.  It sounds to me as if your mum is either:

a) feeling used

or b) slightly overprotective and/or dominant

It could be a mixture of both.

Anyhow at 26 you need to cut those apron strings and not rely on her when you could pay someone to do it.

Answer 4

Maybe she had plans for your birthday and now she's mad.

Answer 5

What are his expectations out of this trip? Your mom could be right or she could not be. We dont know ur friend. ARe you guys going to stay friends? Does one side have feelings for the other one(perhaps him) you need to know all these things. He might have sent you the invite to go and might be expecting more than just friendship and you by accepting might be saying yes to that. You know him better than we do and you shoud know what wil happen.

If you are nto sure, then go and find out by yourself...mom's will be mom's ( she is just worried about you, thats ALL!)  if she really did not want you to go then she would  not be looking after ur puppy.

Answer 6

well its not your fault that she doesnt like him. shes probaly sad that you are going away because there is nothing like mothers love.

Answer 7

Moms are always going to be moms no matter what age u are....thats all i gotta say.

Answer 8

well, you are an adult and have the right to associate with whomever you wish, within reason.  but, i would look into getting someone else to puppy sit and be my chauffeur.  if she doesn't like something you are doing she should have the right to decline certain actions that would support it.  ask her if she would like to find someone else to look after the puppy.

Answer 9

This is coming from a Mom of two grown children: Your Mom needs to lighten up and stop laying the guilt trips. She's being completely unreasonable.

I realize that, as your kids get older, you give up more and more of their time. And she probably counts on being able to celebrate your birthday with you. Just tell her that you really want to celebrate with her, too, and ask her what date before of after would be good for her.

As far as the friend, I have two things to say: You have a right to choose your own friends; and maybe you ought to listen to your Mom, because she's had a lot more time to learn than you have. At least let her know that you respect her point of view and will be careful.

She'll be fine. Just give her some time.

Answer 10

you're mom is just scared.

Answer 11

if she really didn't want you to go she wouldn't look after your puppy and she wouldn't be taking you to the airport. She obviously has her reasons, and she'll get over it.

have a nice time. xx

Answer 12

You mom is being crazy, who knows why, but she is.  

Next time call someone else to puppy-sit!

When she started giving you a hard time on the phone, that's when I would have told her goodbye, and paid someone to watch my puppy.  My mom used to do stuff like this to me, just passive aggressive stuff like this, and that worked with her (stopping the phone conversation, that is).

Answer 13

I think your mom is over reacting and she will get over it ok so don't worry about it ok just play her game and go on your trip

have fun

Answer 14

She is wrong to not talk to you. You should tell her yor 26, you should be able to go on holiday. Its now or never really. If you cant go now, when IS she going to let you. Your right to go :)