Am I wrong or not???????

Question

I am a mom of 2 kids. A girl 5 and a boy 3. I want to have another baby with my husband, but he does not want to have anymore. He says that 2 is enough. How can I get him to have another baby with me, or should I just give up with the idea of another baby and be happy with the 2 I have.

I mean don't get me wrong I love the 2 I have. I just love hold little baby's and I love the fact that they need you. My 2 are at the point where they are more independent.

Answer 1

I'd give up for awhile.  Well, not give up, but I wouldn't press the issue.  He's not shoving the idea of NOT having anymore kids down your throat, so you shouldn't do it to him.  Just continue to be happy with the two that you have.  When the two of you are out on a date together, you can discuss it.  If he still feels like he doesn't want anymore, then drop it for a few months.  Since the two of you aren't in agreement on the subject, I think bringing it up more than once every few months is just asking for a fight.  However, I do feel like it is something that needs to be discussed.  You two need to come to some kind of an agreement.  Unfortunately, with children, there isn't always a common ground.  Either you are going to have more or you aren't.  I think you both need to respectfully make your case and try to come to a conclusion from there.

Answer 2

if your husband doesnt want to why would you wanna courage it,i would leave it alone... thats a touchy subject

Answer 3

You are totally wrong. And forcing him to do it will only make him resent you.

The fact that you feel like you need to have someone dependent on you is not a good sign. If you aren't happy without a baby, you won't be happy with one. It will only be a temporary fix until that one is older and then you will have the same cycle. You need to look into that issue.

Answer 4

Are you sure he meant "never", or just "not right now"?  I mean, your 2 are pretty young.  How independent can they be at that age?  Maybe when they're both in school, he might feel different.  Maybe he sees they take a lot of your time that could be spent with him?  I'd rather work on what I have right now, making the most of it/them.  If you still feel the same way a year from now, bring it up again.  Otherwise, I think brutonmeg has a good suggestion.

Answer 5

Don't trick or lie to you husband, that is not  fair to anyone.  You will have to talk to your husband about the reasons why you want another and why he does not.  This is a hard issue to compromise on.  But what happens when baby #3 gets big?  Will you want baby #4?  You can also consider fostering children.  You can actually specify that you feel that you would be better with very young children.  You do some good in the world and get your baby fix.