Am I wrong to feel hurt that my fiancee often won't take my calls or respond to my texts, but does for others?

Question

I try not to bother her because she does have a tendency to get annoyed easily, but on an almost daily basis, I will have legitimate occasion to call or (more often) text message my fiancee. More often than not, she will not answer my call or I will not hear back from her responding to my text.

What bothers me is that when we're home later in the day and talking about each other's days, she often tells me about things her friends or ex-husband have told her while she has communicated with them over the course of the day. Whenever they call or text her at home, she's there immediately to respond. So basically, she's plugged into them, but not to me.

Sometimes I am not saying something to her that requires a response, and do not expect one, but other times I really need to talk to her, usually to ask her about something that will save her time and aggravation later (i.e. picking up dinner or household supplies on the way home), and I can't help but feel disregarded -- that she's looking at the phone, seeing it's me and ignoring me.

Am I being too sensitive about this? Do I say something or keep my mouth shut? I know she loves me, and I usually just try to tell myself that I'm going to see her when I get home, unlike friends (although that doesn't really explain her talking to her ex).

Thanks in advance for your advice.

Answer 1

Will you marry me?

Answer 2

I am in the same boat...sometimes i just send messages saying something nice or stuff i want to do to him and he won't even text me back...i usually give him an hour and then send him another one pointing out that he hasn't responded...it makes him frustrated, but it's hard to try to do sweet little things and then it's like a slap in the face that he can't even take 5 seconds to send something back...oh, but when his mom or his baby's momma calls/texts, he can respond...apparently it isn't a guy thing...it's just an our S.O. thing...but hang in there...my guy said he can't always txt back b/c he's busy...maybe she really is just super busy

Answer 3

you have serious communication problems.

you need to ask her about what the real problem is

if you are not married yet and have this kind of problem, you need to do some serious thinking.

Try telling her, you can't live like this, and you want out, hear what she says