Am I wrong to think that I should NEVER compliment a woman on her looks

Question

because I'm affraid she'll accuse me of sexual harassment?

Answer 1

You should never mention a woman's looks at all - at any time. Any reference to their appearance is more male oppression. New dress? Ignore it! New hairdo? Ignore that, too! In the workplace, refer to them as "sir," and in public, don't hug them. Just offer your best bone-crushing handshake like you would do with any construction worker.

Answer 2

no i dont think so...if u say "ure pretty" or "ure beautiful" they wouldnt take it in a bad way...unless they are some freak who doesnt kno how to handle compliments from guys

Answer 3

wrong

Answer 4

Well I wouldn't take it that far..but if you feel you might get a poor reaction from a girls it's safer not to.

Answer 5

I would place it safe in general, its fine to say when someone looks well or  if you like their new hair-do. i wouldn't be too much or too detailed. I knew a fella who told a lady at work that she looked like a goddess with her down. She never spoke to him again. Though I thought it was sweet and funny.

Its key to be casual, not to gush or be too detailed. Its always nice to be told you're looking well.  

Answer 6

"you have nice eyes" = good

"you have nice b***s" = bad

"you have a nice smile" = good

"you have a nice butt" = bad

see the difference?

Answer 7

noooo of course not! women LOVE it when you compliment them, sexual harresment is when you touch them innapropriatly

hope this helps

much love xx

Answer 8

ya i think your wrong you can compliment a women nicely with out resorting to ,....you can say you look beautyful your eyes are so blue i could get lost in them something...as long as your not saying man i want to jump your bones or your butt is so firm i want to grab it (or actually doing those things)...stuff like that if your genuine in your response im sure most women will be flatered

Answer 9

Better safe than sorry.  Trust no one.  Assume the worst about people and they will never disappoint you.  Just go about your business.

Answer 10

I don't see anything wrong with complimenting a women if say for example she looks nice, especially if you know her or on friendly terms.  Granted you do have to be more careful when you don't know the person and certainly in a professional environment, like work.  

If you keep the compliments general most women like a good compliment now and then.

Answer 11

no, ur not wrong.  some girls are full of themselves n might think ur stalking them n then call security on u.

Answer 12

Your right to feel that way. Some women over react. It usually depends on how you say it though. If she looks nice...you can tell her so..but don't slowly look her up, and down while l*****g your lips at the same time. lol. If you know the woman..then it shouldn't be a problem..but be careful about complimenting women you do not know...some are cool like me, and will thank you for the compliment like a normal human being..but then again some are psychos lol. Just be careful who/how you compliment.

Answer 13

You may compliment anyone when it is appropriate to do so - when the compliment relates to situation at hand.

When at work, you compliment people on their work skills.  When at a concert, you compliment the band on their artistic abilities.  When in a social setting, you compliment people on their personality.  

The only time you compliment someone on thier looks is when their appearance is directly related to the situation - she's a model, she got dressed up for a special occassion, etc.  

When you compliment someone on something unrelated to the situation, you imply that that is the only criteria that matters - that it doesn't matter how good of a worker she is, it's only her looks that matter; that it doesn't matter how talented a singer is, it's only his money that matters; and so on.

Answer 14

Some people have it wrong on here, in the work place if you comment at all on a womans looks(or anyone's) then it can be misconstued as harrassment. The deciding factor is the person on the receiving end, not on how you meant the compliment to sound.

I'm saying what I have learnt about the law in these matters, not necessarily my opinion.

If you know someone well enough, you could judge what is appropriate or how they will take it.

If it is out of a work environment, there are still compliments that I'm sure would get you into trouble. I trust you know the difference between "Nice dress, it shows your cleavage" and a simple "That dress suits you".

I'm sure with respect, you can know what would be the best to say sincerely. Women generally like sincerity.

Beauty is definately in the eye of the beholder. A sense of humour and genuine personality counts for a lot with real people.

Answer 15

Unless you are her boss or gynecologist I don't see the problem with giving a compliment.

Answer 16

Sexual harassment is different that a compliment, but I guess if you aren't smart enough to know the difference you probably shouldn't compliment women.

Answer 17

Yes, you are wrong, however, rather than commenting on her body, you should comment on her dress, or her necklase or hair. I wouldn't comment on her shoes or her purse...that has Rue Paul connotations.

If it's not the work place, for example, if you see a girl on the street, most of the time, if you were to say something like "Excuse me ma'am but you are absolutely beautiful" most women would be very flattered by this.

By the way, you don't have to be handsome to get a nice girl.

It is a huge misconception that women are so fixated on a mans looks.

Women like confidence. Simon Cowell wasn't that great looking and he has a supermodel hanging on his arm because he is confident. He wasn't afraid to have a conversation with her and ask her out.

Answer 18

If she's offended she's not worth talking to.  

Try "nice rack." (JK)