Am I wrong to write off my white-trash family? I'm ashamed to show my face in my hometown because of them. ?

Question

I want to say a final goodbye to the endless court room drama, tantrums, brawls and psychotic episodes. They are all crazy and hate me anyway. They are using my Dad for his money and the old fool can't see it, so there is also some elderly neglect/abuse going on.

Would I be a terrible person if I never saw them again (even at Dad's funeral)?

Answer 1

Family is very important. They are still your family even if they are very bad. Just be patient with them, and see what you can do to change them and make them better people. If this wont work out, then you can keep distance  , but still keep in touch with them. Take care of your dad.  

Answer 2

No to writing them off.  They are blood.  You cannot get another and get used to the facts of they being who they are and you being who you are.  Big difference.

Answer 3

that sounds bad but when you get down to it and your on the last road of your life family is all you have,i took care of my dad the last years of his. because ho one else would my brother had got the land in that three years i spent taking care of my dad i got to know him. and love him. i can.t say much for my brother but he will have to live with it, he got the land. but i got three years with my dad,

Answer 4

Well as the old saying goes, you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family.  Unfortunately that is so true.  It is however nice to know that I am not the only one with looser family members.  Myself, I just distance myself from all of those that I do not agree with or get along with.

Family is family, they will always be your family.  You just do not always have agree with them or associate with them.

Answer 5

They are still your family, unfortunately you cant change that. There is the old saying that you can choose your friends but you cant choose your family. I must say I actually dont entirely agree with that, You cant change the fact that you share the same blood in your veins but you can make the choice of whether or not you want to associate with them.

If you get along with your dad, maybe you can organise a time with him to meet up on a regular basis so that you dont have to see the rest of the family.

Its really sad that you have been put in this situation but I hope you can work things out and if they are messing your life up then I would cut them loose. :)

Answer 6

You'd be a smart person to be walking away from that lot.  Family or not, you don't have to put up with that c**p.  And as your dad would be dead, he probably won't notice you're not at his funeral. - and the nutty squirrels?  Well you don't really care what they think.  All aboard.....train to sanity leaving now.