Am an indian wanting to adopt a child in India. We already have a biological child?

Question

Want to know how to convince our parents about this who are pretty conservative

Answer 1

Tell them that there are a lot of children who need good homes. I plan on adopting when I'm older. The Earth is already supporting 6 billion people when it barely is supposed to be able to support 4 billion. You can adopt a wonderful child who will love you like you're his or her real parents. Your parents should learn to respect your decision.

Answer 2

Good for you!  Forgive my ignorance please, but are there any culural or religious reasons that your parents are balking at?  financial reasons?  Adoption is pretty expensive, but it definitely can be done-heck I did it!  It's a fabulous journey and well worth all of it.  Go to some websites and then show your parents the photos-sometimes a picture of a child will help melt their hearts.  Good luck and I'm sure you will get them to see your path.  Sheri

Answer 3

Don't worry about convincing your parents.  You need to let them know that this is what you're going to do to grow your family & if they're on board & accepting of it, wonderful...if not, then you'll regret the loss of relationship with them.

It won't be healthy for your adopted child to be around family members who aren't accepting & will send messages (no matter how subtle or obvious) that they're not welcome, not loved or not worthy.

If you move forward, be willing if necessary to sever the relationship with your parents.

I'm betting that even if they aren't supportive initially, they'll probably come around after they see the new child.

Answer 4

I know what you mean, but tell invite them one day all together and break the news to them( make them understand that you are doing it because you both want to, and that you want to give someone else a chance but not because you can't have children, tell them that it doesn't mean that you are going to stop giving birth now that you have adoptd another child well, you know them just tell them not to worry). There is no better news to tell them. Just go for it, I also admire the fact that you want to adopt a child

Answer 5

My husband (Chinese American) and I went through this with his family.  Sometimes you have to do what is right for you, and your family will either accept it or not.  Most of the time, parents are fearful of the unknowns, but once you have your child home, they will love their grandchild.

I understand the cultural pressure to not go against your parents, and I understand the cultural stigma against raising a child who is not blood related.  But, again, this is one of those big decisions in your life that you have to make for you, not for your parents.  I really think they will come around once your child is home, although I can't promise.  And if they don't, it is there loss.  It is the typical first generation/second generation clash.  Your parents will fight it, but once they can't change it, they will not want to risk loosing you and your children in their lives, and they will accept it.  I am sorry you have to go through your adoption experience this way.  I know it is painful to go through without your parents' support.

Answer 6

If your parents are so narrow minded & bigotted I say don't try to convince them of anything.  It's your decision.  Eventually they may come around.  If not don't allow them to be alone with the children unless you know they are treating them right.