Am doing a child care course?

Question

I would like help with this question, B.J. 3 years in the toddler room in long day care often screams and strikes at other children if they take equipment away from him.

In my answer I have to promote positive outcomes and realistic expectations of children's behaviour.

How communication is used to suggest positive outcomes.

Limitations and safety are discussed in realtion to the children's behaviour.

Ways that children could be encouraged to express their ideas.

Opportunities for children to problem-solve.

I have some answers, could anyone please give me more ideas.

Answer 1

I would suggest giving B.J. a warning, " In 5 minutes we will be cleaning up and putting the toys away" He is frustrated because he was enjoying playing and didn't want to stop. With a warning he can prepare himself.

Also telling B.J. about the fun activities we have planned after we clean up could help.

Helping B.J. express his feelings on frustration instead of hitting would help too. Have the teacher say, " It sounds (Or looks) like you are frustrated B.J and  are sad to put the toys away" How about i put the toy on this shelf so you can play with it tommorrow?

Answer 2

Use positive reinforcement. So, when he is not exhibiting the negative behaviours, give positve comments such as 'wow, BJ you did a really good job sharing that toy with your friend" also try to get BJ to use his words ie "BJ i see that you are upset that billy took your toy. You can tell billy that you are mad and want your toy back"

Answer 3

When I was taking ECE courses the profesors always emphasized using "I" messages and honoring children's feelings.  Here is an idea for this situation.

"B.J., it looks like you are feeling angry because your toy was taken away, but it makes me sad when you hit other children because my job is to make sure everybody is safe at school."

Then you can give him some tools to solve the problem, such as:

"B.J. when somebody takes your toy you can tell them 'No.  I'm still playing with that' or you can ask a teacher for help."

Then let him know that his behavior was inappropriate and, if he repeats it, what will happen.

"B.J., there is no hitting at school.  If you hit again I'm going to have you take a break in the other room for three minutes."

Good luck!