Am getting older and thinking about wedding...

Question

Am going out with someone who do not want to marry, at least before 10 years. And someone proposed me to marry me recently and honestly am getting older and am thing about marriage...please help me should i continue in a relationship which is ending nowhere probably or should i start to think about moving with the guy who asked me.??

Answer 1

Take it easy.  Rushing into marriage is not key.  Stay with whatever guy makes you happy.  Though he may say he doesnt wat to get married for ten years, you can never guarantee what happens in life, something may happen that will make him realize he doesnt want to lose you and WALA proposal!!!!  And if you're talking to 2 guys at the same time I am sorry to say that I dont think that you are ready.

Answer 2

for me, I'll go for the man who i really love..why in a hurry?, you might lose your happiness..just be patient..Ü

Answer 3

start to think about moving with the guy who asked u to marry him that would be better i guess

Answer 4

  Well, how much do you love your current boyfriend? you never mentioned weather you love him or not, and definitely don't marry someone out of desperation. I know that you feel pressure to get married soon but think things trough and that way you won't regret anything.

Answer 5

sorry lady..we need to know how old r u..sorry but we really do

Answer 6

Never marry out of desperation. It will lead to nothing but an unhappy marriage based on resentment, not love.

Think to yourself what exactly you want out of a marriage and how old are you really?

If you're in your 20s, you have tonnes of time before making a decision about being too old.

If you're in your 30s, you need to definitely figure out where you want to be and if your current partner is not on the same page or compatible with you then there's absolutely no point.

You can't make a decision to marry a person when your heart is with another.

Free your mind, heart and soul. Figure out what you want and why you want it and go for it.

All the best.

Answer 7

you should have a serious talk with the guy youve been dating for 10 years and tell him about your situation (ie. how you dont think you can wait any longer, how it doesnt seem like the relationship is going anywhere). see what he says about it before making any decision. good luck! =)

Answer 8

in my country we date before you marry! don't know where you are from but it sounds  like yor dating one guy and another guy proposed? say noi and run like h**l!

Answer 9

I guess the one who you love most.........and hopefully the one who proposed you.

Answer 10

Well, if you don't love the man who asked you to marry him then you should not marry him.  As for the man you like but doesn't want to marry... you need to let him go too.  Unfortunately, as women, we always think we can be so wonderful that we can change men's minds/behaviors... this is simply not true.  If he doesn't want to marry... he won't marry.  Not you, not anyone else.  If you want true love and a lifetime commitment then you need to keep searching.

God bless you.

Answer 11

Both these men seem to be the wrong one for you.  The one you have dated is not ready to marry and the one who proposed is not really your soul mate.  You say you are getting on; as in 35, 45, 55 or what?

Most of my friends, and myself, had this biological crunch at 24ish were we all felt obliged to get married.  Most of us made lousy deals, myself included.

So wait for Mr Right, and don't make do with second best.