Am i Just being Paranoid?

Question

Okay this is probably a stupid question & its kind of hard to explain so please bear with me. I'll start by saying I believe in signs , like when I was pregnanat I was cleaning up at work & found a heart pendant that had the words "its a girl" engraved in it - & I had a girl (okay 50/50 chance but still), when my husband & I met 5 years ago it was an incredibly rainy season & the day we met was one of the only sunny days we had & my chinese fortune cookie that day said "the sun is shining & love is in the air"

5 years later we now have a beautiful baby girl who will be a 1 next month. She seems to be developing normally & is doing great but I cant seem to shake this uneasy feeling that everythings not so great with her. I should also mention that I am a first time mom & I worry insesivly about everything-im nuerotic & have a tendency to think/fear the worst. I was reading an article on autism & learned about a rare (1 in 15000 girls)

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Answer 1

This is kind of a hard one. On one hand there has been tons of autism awareness in the media and from what I have read it is hard to diagnose that young.

On the other hand, if it is affecting you that much maybe you should trust your instincts and get a referell to a specialist.

There have been times when I have taken my sons to the dr. because of something and it turned out to be really nothing but I would rather be safe than sorry. Like last winter when my son was almost 2 1/2 I couldnt get him to hardly eat anything for like 3 days and I got really worried and it turned out he was just getting his molars... I felt kinda silly cuz I hadnt even thought about that.

Just think of this....In a few years you will either think

1. I wish that I had trusted my gut and taken her to specialist to start the process sooner.

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2. I spent a lot of time and money taking her to all those drs and there wasnt anything wrong with her...I was just being paranoid.

Answer 2

You are being paranoid. Stop worrying!

Answer 3

Hun you will make yourself ill if you continue ...if your child has a problem then it will be picked upon as was my angel pictured left ...one years old is way to young to worry about nothing especially autism, Thomas at aged 2 wasn't talking wouldn't look at us and just played on his own and then at aged 3 he was diagnosed with autism, and there is NOTHING i could have done about that but be the best mother i can to him and his twin sister ...as yes its a worry but you get on with it ...its life !

Answer 4

Think positive and stop reading in to everything. She is way way too young to diagnose and she sounds like she is doing the things that she should be doing. The more positive you are toward her the better.

Answer 5

With all the media coverage about autism, it is normal and natural to be concerned about. One year of age is a little young to diagnose autism. However, if you feel like something is not right, it cannot hurt to bring your concerns up to your pediatrician.

Also, the incidence of autism in both boys and girls is 1 in 156. However, four times as many boys are autistic than girls.

Answer 6

Only thing you can do is pray. God is the only one who knows whats really going on anyway. Your time worrying is time wasted. There are some things that are out of our hands...you know like....destiny, fate, miracles......Why spend time worrying about something that is out of your hands or even your realm of knowledge at this point? If you want to put stock in something why not God himself? Sometimes we as humans try to figure everything out and all we end up doing is over-analysing and confusing ourselves. Just let it be and pray for wisdom...good Luck and God Bless :-)

Answer 7

Okay, the signs could be one thing, but my daughter who just turned one, claps and holds her hands together, and sticks her fingers in her mouth... doesn't every baby do that at that age? I had some precautions about everything, like getting her immuninzations because of the autism thing, but it's so rare. In my opinion, if you feel that she's going to get it, then that's just putting bad karma out there. I wouldn't worry about it too much, since all babies that age, stick their fingers and anything else in their mouths, and claps and hold their hands together.

Answer 8

Your daughter is most likely completely healthy. Just enjoy her because she will grow up before you know it. And you might want to get some help with anxiety/hyperchondria yourself. I had a friend who as a nurse thought she could get cancer from her patients. She had to leave oncology and she's on meds now. I look for signs too but this one is a bit extreme.

Answer 9

I'm sure you've had other "signs" and nothing ever came of it - you probably didn't even notice.  I'm sure it's just first time mother jitters.

Answer 10

Yes, you are being extremely paranoid...If her doctor says she is fine then I'm sure she is.  Don't be so anxious about everything because believe me it will rub off on your daughter.