Am i Raising Her Wrong?

Question

i am a uyoung mom and i feel as if im not raising my daughter right.

1. ses 16 bmonths and shes still on mushy baby food. when i try to give ger table food she spits it out and then pushes it away.(n wat should she really be eating at 16 monts)

2. also how do i put my daugter on a schedule because i notice she goes to sleep late.. but im so busy in my day that its hard for me to give her a bed time

3. im not sure how much shes suppose to be saying but right now allshe says is dadda and gracia... im not sure if she sould be talking more because i feel guilty that i dont have time 2 read to her every day.

how do i get her on a set daily schedule

Answer 1

I have a 7 yr old son and my sister has 6 children which include twin boys that are 15 mnths and dont worry about the speech as thats normal, im not a big reader either and my son didnt get it everyday.

Parenting is all trial and error and no one is a perfect 1.

Feed her healthy foods and if she pushes them away then dont give her substitutes as kids will eat when they are hungry trust me.

We all want to be the perfect parent but at the end of the day none of us are, Just do your best.

Try your hardest though in making a specific bed time at night and get her into a routine of some sort as kids thrive on routine and need it !!!

Good Luck

Shelly

Answer 2

1. Most 16 month olds eat regular food, just cut up smaller (except peanut butter, nuts, and honey, that I know of). When is her next doctor's appointment? That would be a good thing to ask about. Will she eat things like Cheerios? Cut up watermellon is really good to try; any kind of soft fruit. Well-cooked pasta. Bits of cheese. Try putting her in her high chair and offering some finger foods for her to feed herself. I'm not a big fan of the Gerber puffs and things like that, but try them if you want to.

2. Is there any certain time that would work for bed time every day? Just try putting her to bed at that time every night. It's really good to get into a routine--bed time routines are especially helpful. It doesn't have to be long and complicated. Somehing like:  Have a snack, take a bath, read a couple books, and go to bed. I don't know what your daily schedule is like, but for an example...

7:30 Wake up, have breakfast, get dressed

10:00 Have a snack

12:30 Lunch, then a nap

3:00 Snack

5:30 Supper

8:00 Snack, bath, books, bed

I've never been good at keeping my son on a schedule. It seemed like I'd just get it down-pat and something would change that I'd have to rearrange it all. Be flexible. Their eating and sleep needs change all the time.

3. http://www.helpforkidspeech.org/articles... Here's a site that addresses that exact thing.

You are doing fine. You're not raising her wrong! Good luck. Enjoy her--that age is so fun.

Answer 3

I am a very busy mom as well. Noone is perfect hon so dont think you are a bad mom because your child only says 2 words.  However you have to get her on a schedule. I dont know if you work outside of the home or not but if you do you can make a sched. for when you come home from work.  As for the food try cutting up small pieces of fruit to give her first.  Then slowly start giving her some cut up pieces of chicken or fish.  Eventually the more she eats of table foods you can then take her off the jar foods.  Here is my sons schedule on the weekends when he is with me:

7:30am: Wake up change diaper. Read a book or play with mommy and daddy

8:30am-9:00am:  Breakfast. (i.e Pancakes, cut up fruit, yogurt, or oatmeal with cut up bananas, and juice)

12:00pm-1:30: Bottle of milk and Lunch then naptime. Lunch I usually give grilled cheese, turkey sandwich, fruit or chicken nuggets or somethign like that.

2:00pm: Nap time

3:00pm: Wake up for snack. (crackers, gerber fruit puffs, cheerios and water or juice)

6:30pm-7:30pm: Dinner Time. He eats what we eat. And if he doesnt than he just gets his milk and goes to bed. I dont cook separate meals for him.

8:30pm-9:30pm: Bath, Story Time then Bed Time

Answer 4

I had some of the same issues with my daughter and I am faaaar (oh so far) from a young mom. Here's what worked for us:

1. Cut out a lot of the jarred stuff. She won't eat as much at first. So try to find table food that she does like. For my girl it was cheese crackers, apples, bananas and NOTHING else. Scary! I gave her formula because I was so afraid she would lose weight.  But she came around...trying new things all the time. And now she's 50th percentile and eats pizza and PB&J, hummous....and cheese. Yours will do the same.

2. Look at how much she sleeps. I was worried because my baby wanted to go to sleep at 10 pm every night. Well, I tried and tried to put her on a schedule. She's 2 now and still goes to sleep at 10pm. So I figure...I could've saved a lot of time and energy by making her bedtime 10pm.

3. Her speech is not delayed, but if you don't have time to read to her, someone should...who else is helping care for her? If it's just you, you need help. If not, tell granma or daddy or the daycare provider your concerns about her speech and ask them to talk and read to her more. To be honest, for vocabulary, talking to her is most important. Would it be possible to find some quiet time when just the two of you can talk everyday? Just a little time will do wonders.

Answer 5

www.babycentre.com is an excellent site.. you sign up for free and they send you weekly emails about what your baby/toddler is doing and developing. It also has a lot of great FAQ's and forums to read and should solve most of your questions!

Good luck!