Am i a bad person???????

Question

we had a family secret & there is a counciler who i like, as a mom, & i told her this seceret to her & now my family is mad. im 15, & i don't want to tell the seceret again. how can i get my family to like me again?

Answer 1

How could you spill the beans. It was a family secret.

It's okay it will blow over. they will end up thinking it was their fault for telling you. Just don't expect to hear any more secrets form them for some time. And what ever it was your family will always love you. Good Luck with getting their trust back

Answer 2

What's the secret? If it was something that needed to be said then it needed to be said.  

Answer 3

you definitely should not have told ANYONE, but it's your family...they will forgive you eventually...

Answer 4

NO. if you were a bad person you wouldn't feel sympathy or be sorry .       you need to explain to your family how truely sorry you are and how disrespectfull and unthoughtfull you were to spread the secret. sure they might not get over it and hold a grudge for a while but after a while they should accept your apology and things will go along as they always have:) also, you might wanna tell the person you revealed the secret to to NEVER spread it to anyone.. and tell your family you did that.

Answer 5

Its fine. They will soon get over it if they truly love you as family members, your a teen...thats what teens do, they make mistakes. im a teen. too. ive made plentyyy. and if they dont get over it soon, just be lke: look, im sorry and it wont happen again. it just didnt feel rite when my councier asked me things and i was lieng. its fine. yer a good person!

Answer 6

This question is a little bit confusing.  Are you saying that you have a family secret that you told a counselor and the counselor turned around and told your family that you told him/her about your family secret?  If that is the situation then I am wondering, what type of counselor is this, a camp counselor, a therapist counselor etc?  

Answer 7

your family hasn't stopped liking or loving you. they are just mad that you let out a little bit of a skeleton in the closet. Just say you're sorry and move on or try to. also this depends how bad of a secret. :P hard to say but i think in the meantime if that secret isn't hurting anyone you should keep it to yourself.

Answer 8

u r not a bad person coz every one of us do mistakes so do ur best to let ur family like u again .i hope u all the best and good luck.please dont put in ur mind that u r a bad person coz u r not .do u know that u r in my age so i undertand u .

Answer 9

NO YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON AT ALL !!!

you told your counciler your family secret because you trusted her and wanted to get some stuff out of your system, its bad for a teenager to have too much stuff bottled up an they always need someone to talk to besides their own family to understand things. You should explain to your family that you just needed someone to talk to besides them, and plus they are your family and they love you so they will get over it soon, they wont hate you or stay mad forever

Answer 10

no you aren't a bad person. don't beat yourself up. tell your family you are sorry this upset them and you won't do it again. it cant be that bad. say you regret mentioning the secret but you thought you could trust her. btw how did your family  find out? if the councilor told then tell her you are upset that she betrayed the secret. if your family snooped tell them they should have trusted you. good luck. they will eventually forgive you. :)

Answer 11

No one is bad only his or her action make his or her bad. I guess only you can answer it better. Analyse your-self & your treatment to other you will get your answer.

Answer 12

How does your family know that you shared this secret? If you spoke to this woman in her capacity as a councelor, she is supposed to keep what you told her private ( unless its about something illegal). So if she went back to your family and shared what you talked about, there might be legal/ethical issues there. If YOU  are the one who told your family you shared this secret...well it depends on what the secret is, and why you felt the need to share it with an outsider. Try to answer that question, that should help.  

Answer 13

I feel for you.  You shouldn't be made to keep secrets inside and not deal with the problem.  Your family is embarrassed most likely.  It's not that they don't like you, depending on what the problem was and what you said, they may not trust you.  Depending on what the problem is, is it dangerous or damaging to anyone in your family?  It's ok to say something when the situation calls for it.  

Answer 14

If you spoke to a councilor about it, then how the h**l did your family find out you spoke about it? She's legally required to keep all information private unless it endangers your life.  

Answer 15

When people go to counselors they go and open up about everything,...that is how the counselor can help by knowing all of the facts about your problems.So what you did was a good thing not a bad thing,If your parents were loving caring people they would put you first and swallow their pride for the sake of a 15yr old child who is still finding their way in the world.Part of growing up is making mistakes but more importantly learning from them...stay with your counselor you are going to need it.

Answer 16

Your family may be mad at you, and disappointed with you, but they not only still like you, they love you.

It will take a while for you to regain their trust, but keep at it.  Learn to keep family business at home.

The home is the sanctuarty, where you should feel safe.  

Be lucky you have a safe home and a loving family.

There's an old saying "Don't wash the family linen in public."  

And don't tell any more secrets.  

Answer 17

No you aren't a bad person, and your family will get over it.  They shouldn't be keeping secrets anyway, that never helps things!

Answer 18

no way are you a bad person this secret was obviously playing on your mind for you to tell someone and anyway a counciler should be a trusted  person to talk to so your family shouldnt be mad anyway because she wont tell anyone. say to your family that your sorry and you havent told anyone thats going to and tell everyone else.  

Answer 19

You're not a bad person.

And if some r****d on YahooAnswers says you are, just ignore it.

Truly bad people kill, rape, steal, cheat, etc.

You perhaps just made a little mistake.

To me, it sounds like you're under alot of pressure by your family not to tell this "horrible secret." By telling your counselor, you were only looking for release, for a way out.

Answer 20

First of all, stop telling people outside your family family secrets, even though they have a governmental title they can't be trusted. If you have any problems you really need help with, then you can seek help from them. But not for just having a chat about things that do not concern them. I do not know what the secret is and how severely it has damaged your family.

With that said; No you are not a bad person. You are just somewhat naive. In time your family will forgive you. As they say, time heals all wounds. Just make sure you learned from this experience.

Answer 21

No you are as good as me or your family! your a great person! and it might be hard for a week or two but you are still a great person and will have a great life!

Answer 22

your a teenager,it's understandable.They'll get over it.

Answer 23

Hey there,

Don't listen to the idiot that said you are a bad person. I am a psychotherapist and in Family therapy we learn that a family is only as sick as it darkest secret.

Every family has a secret. Secrets are not healthy. Its obvious that it was on your mind and I hope you feel better that you have shared it with a someone that you trust.

If someone was to come to me, outside of my office as a trusted friend I would not ever share this confidence with another person unless...

1. Their is evidece that this person has or is being hurt.

2. This person is hurting or planning on hurting someone.

I am talking about physical hurt.

Good luck

Answer 24

tell them that you learn and you're never gonna say any more family secret ,tray to be more next to your family  

Answer 25

  You did not do anything wrong.. If your mom is not the mom that you know and love, and she is an example of what you would like as a mom, maybe your mom will see the good and correct her ways.. Your family will get over it in time.. Don't worry.  

Answer 26

appoligize and explain why you told the secret. they should forgive you.

Answer 27

If the secret was something like...they beat you than no your not a bad person you should have said something. but if it was something embarrassing to the family then you should not have said anything....

Answer 28

  Your family is just upset, they will get over it with time, but it will be quite some time before they have the trust in you they once had, sorry. But you are still family and that is always special in it's own way.

Answer 29

If your family secret is something like "Your family is the mob and are responsible for at least 15,000  murders" then yeah.. you're a bad person.. YOU KILLED 15,000 PEOPLE!

But, if it's something like "Your family is half royalty and you're rich" then no.. you're just a rich snob.

Answer 30

Make sure that you counciler does not tell any one and just explain to your family that you considered your couciler to be as close to u as your family was.

Answer 31

nope ur not a bad person!!! everyone does mistakes like dat and its not ur fault bcuz u trusted ur counciler....its her fault for openin her big mouth!! dont feel guilty and just approach dem and tell dem sorry!! hope everything goes alright...=]]]]