Am i a bad person?will anyone love me when i grow up?

Question

was being molested by my brother when i was 5 till i was 7.i hate everything about me.i don't think i'm good enough and i sometimes believe no man could ever love me when i grow up.i'm 16 now and i don't wanna talk to guys cause i don't deserve them.i feel really guilty.even though i was really young,it's like i can see myself enjoying the thing that i did.and i think i can actually remember me asking him to do it to me.i feel really nasty and confused.i think sometimes it's my fault cause i asked him many times to do it.even though i did'nt know what i was doing,i still asked.am i a bad person?

Answer 1

don't punish yourself you've done nothing

wrong hard to get over and for get

dont blame yourself

get some help be brave

you are not bad  so dont think you are

good luck

Answer 2

of course your not.

   I think you could still benefit a great deal with counciling, because someone did a bad job the first time, if you even attended any.

   I'm guessing, that this being a family incident, that you did not receive counciling, as it would then be opened up to investigation.

   Your brother could use some too, being that he can't be handling it too well either.

    What you need to understand is that children are also sexual beings. That they know what feels good although they do not understand or know what its all about.

    Nor are you alone, you happen to be in an overcrowded situation at this time.

    If you can't blame yourself for being to young to understand, then you obviously must know you can't hold yourself responsible for asking...now can you ??

     Look, what you are feeling, every word of it, happens to be a very natural human response. Nor do you have to keep feeling like that, you need to understand, that is why kids are so easy to lure away, it's called "innocence".

     Contact a sexual abuse councilor a free clinic can help direct you, they work closely with most agencies.

Answer 3

this isn't your fault you had no idea it was a bad thing you thought because it was your bother and he is suppose to love you that it couldn't be. You were to young to know you weren't suppose to like it to you it seemed fine because you didn't know.  Your not bad person you had no say in this and even if you had you were to young to understand that it was bad. The only person in the wrong here is your brother and i hope that he has changed and apologized to you because you deserve one. God has plans for your love life trust me you will find love and until then put your love in God because he will always love you  

Answer 4

This may seem a bit uncaring for me to say, but I don't understand why the victim always feels that it is their fault.

You, didn't do anything, and the fact that your brother did this to you makes him the bad person. You didn't know what you were doing, just like you said. Of coarse someone will love you. This abuse doesn't make you disgusting or bad, or any less of a person.

I hope you stop thinking it's your fault, because you deserve to find love.

And you're brother could have just said no when you asked again, and realized that it was wrong of him. Please stop putting yourself down.

Answer 5

you aren't a bad person you just made a big mistake, its good that you can tell people. you dont have to tell a man when you meet i got molested by my brother and i liked it, its something that you will have to deal with over the years. you still are goin to have that doubt about boys and how "bad you are" but if you dont have confidence and believe that you shouldnt have a man then he isnt going to think anything of you, have self confidence its in the past

Answer 6

Yes, you will be loved, and no you are not a bad person, you had no say in the matter exactly because you were too young to know what's right to do or say. Try to lower your defenses down a bit when you meet a nice guy, and if you're sure he's the guy for you, reveal your feelings to him, and see what happens!

Answer 7

You are not a bad person in anyway. The incident with your brother happened over 10 years ago! Thats a long time.  You where too young to know what your brother was doing to you and to know it was wrong of him.  How does this incident that happened over 10 years ago make you less worthy of being loved then anybody else?  Stop thinking about the past and think about now and the future.  Turn over a new leaf and meet a nice man who will treat you right,  I'm not saying It will be easy to forget it, but thinking like that will only lead you into worse problems.

I am 16 myself (turning 17 in Oct) and if my girlfriend told me what you just did, it would be a bit of a shock, yes, but in all honesty it wouldn't bother me one bit as It was so long ago.

BTW, How old was your brother?