Am i a perfectionist at beauty?

Question

I am SO SICK of comparing myself to other girls.For some reason, when I leave the house,I MUST look the best I can. I'm definitely not conceited at all, and a lot of people think I'm pretty, but for some reason I still find myself comparing myself.I just really don't know what to do, I honestly think I have a problem. For me, beauty is the number ONE goal, but I try so hard not to think this way because I don't want to be vain.

I love Victoria's secret, and its actually hard for me to look at the pictures of the models because in my mind, my goal is to look like them, but I know i just...cant.I try so hard, but for me, nothing is satisfying.I know its all airbrushed and fake, but the girls are just so beautiful, and I just have mixed feelings.I'm only fourteen, but I find myself comparing to THIS-

http://blogfile.paran.com/BLOG_117667/200712/1198751905_vs2007-3-3.jpg

http://i.realone.com/assets/rn/img/2/0/3/9/17359302-17359304-large.jpg

http://l.yimg.com/img.tv.yahoo.com/tv/us/img/site/62/28/0000036228_20061201125236.jpg

http://simplygorgeouswomen.com/Adriana-Lima/Adriana-Lima-116.JPG

http://simplygorgeouswomen.com/Adriana-Lima/Adriana-Lima-68-picture.php

Please, I do have other priorities.I get good grades and school comes first.Thank you.

This is me--

1)http://a249.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/57/l_ae5d798db9f4df2bf54407865ef99f38.jpg

2)http://a760.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/91/l_d8aa0fada8fb62b7d54f238067fd77af.jpg

I just HATE what the media portrays women these days. I don't HAVE the huge b***s, the blond hair, the mile long legs, and i just feel so helpless. People really don't know the pressure thats put on women these day, we have to deal with EVERYTHING.

Please help?

Answer 1

trust me girl i know how you feel and yes i get those moments too

that i compare myself alot to other people and i just can't help it but

what sometimes helps is to remember os the complements someone

has gave you and say to your self that you are pretty but in your own way because everybody looks different even if you get surgeries and i'm not overly obsessed with the whole beauty thing most of the time but sometimes i'am but the most im obsessed with is weight and that kind of the same because i start comparing myself to other girls and models like you say and ya i compare my beauty to the girl from victoria's secret but i'm not anerexic though well hope i helped good luck and you are pretty    

Answer 2

I feel the same way, I'm 15.

you wear a lot of make up for a 14 year old though, and you have a good body compared to a lot of people.

I'm kinda overweight and have a hard time with my weight.

You actually look pretty good,

yeah it's hard to see people like that and say wow i wish i had a body like that or a face like that

but we CANT change.

and in 60 years no one is gonna know or care who the hotties were.

so we can deal. :)

Answer 3

i don't see why you would try to look like anyone else or try anything to make yourself look pretty

i think you are lovely and gorgeous as it is

Answer 4

get over it. they're hot ur not. you'll never be like them

Answer 5

u r gorgeous stop worrying about it

and the real truth is i think ur prettier than any of those other girls all the models look the same thers nothing unique bout them

i love ur eyes too.

just be urself. guys usually like personality over looks

Answer 6

Girl, YOUR GORGEOUS.

you need to know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

and that to some people those models are gorgeous and some they may be ugly.

be confident. have fun. your beautiful, and you just need to relize that.:]

Answer 7

shut up. your ugly and they are victorias secret. no matter what, no one will look like them.

you have to stop. just because your not as pretty as other girls doesn't mean your not pretty at all.

i totally agree with answer 1

Answer 8

JUST SHUT UP...

URE UGLY..

SO STOP

ULL NEVER LOOK LIKE THEM

GIVE IT UP

CONCEITED AND PATHETIC

IS WHAT U ARE

ILL STOP NOW

U BIG NOSED WEIRD LOOKING RED CHEECKED FREAK

Answer 9

Hear hear! I agree, the media blows when they try to portray the average woman.  I swear, it's tearing us women apart when we try to compete with digitally enhanced photos of walking broom sticks.  I mean, I love models, don't get me wrong.  Their facial structures are so unique and gorgeous, but I'm tired of them.  Bring back the average woman!

Hon, you're gorgeous and you don't need to compare yourself to them.  Remember, they are digitally enhanced.  You'd be surprised at what some of those VS Angels look without make up.  

Answer 10

dont worry, answer #1 was really mean. i think you are really pretty. without make up those models arent even pretty. they just look lke normal people. sort of like this:

http://www.kissandmakeup.tv/models%20wit...

http://www.fashionisspinach.com/images/e...

Answer 11

hey i just read some of the comments that the people gave u

they are so freaking rude

the avator with blonde ponytails is just jelous dont owrry

i asnwerd her Q after i saw what she wrote in urs

she is not even pretty and she was making fun of u

wth?

frget tehm. they are jelous

i saw ur piks and i thougth they were amazing

i cant believe ur asking this qestion becuase u are so gorgeous

u have nice eyes and hair and u look better than models

everyone these days does that though

girls want to be perfect

if i dont feel like getting dressed, i get emberassed to come out of the house. i feel like girls are vicious and they stare at everyonee

u are wayy GORGEOUS!

i bet u would look good without even trying

dont listen to rude comments

they are jelous

hope i helped

Answer 12

remember that for VS angels its their job to look that good. to show off the merchandise, to sell sell and sell. they're only a small percentage of what the typical woman looks like. as long as you're healthy you're fine. and no one else looking at you is comparing you to adriana lima. they all work out like crazy..most of them have surgical procedures too.its not all natural. you're only 14 so enjoy your childhood and don't try to grow up too fast.

Answer 13

i understand where you're coming from. I'm 15 and i would love to look "perfect" but, you have to remember, it's NOT gonna happen. you are beautiful, you are unique, you are YOU. they make a living looking "hot". you just can't compare yourself to them because you don't work out 5 hours a day and starve yourself. there is a ton of pressure put on us women these days. it's rough but you have to learn to do what makes you happy. btw, I plan on changing things. good luck, hon you're not ugly. =)

Answer 14

wipe off the 50 layers of makeup and calm down.

you're only fourteen so you dont even know what you're going to look like when you're older...right now you just look trashy and like you're trying way too hard.

Answer 15

O M G

some of the answers you got were so mean

thoose must be some jealous WHORED :D

ur preety.. and to be a model you dont have to be preety u have to have unique features and u do have them...

so yea... I KNOW THE MEDIA is SO AGH..

gosh dont let ur self feel down

im not all that preety i am preety but nto gorgeous but i think i look good

THINK UR s**y think good ur preety

and dont let ugly b itches offend u or the STUPID media

:D

good luck!

btw to get far u need potential!  

Answer 16

Ahh I feel like that too :(

Every time I go into Vicky's Secret I just stare at the pictures of the models and my esteem plummets!

I feel like I have to get my lips plumped, wear high heels and get extentions. At home I try to find pics of celebrities with no makeup. I know they don't look like that in real life (I'm pretty sure Adriana got her lips done), not to metion all the makeup/hair, but I STILL want to look like that.

I just try not to think about it and love myself :)

Answer 17

a lot of girls feel like that.

I'm a perfectionist at beauty too.

Answer 18

egh dont worry we all feel like that

and i always try to look the best and put make up that really justr uins my skin too look prettier

but heres a trick instead if always looking at ppl who are prettier thn you look at the ones who are uglier smile and make them jealous

hehe

it always works

=]

Answer 19

your pretty

dont listen to these haters

i feel the same way...try to look like these celebs

i truelly feel where your coming from

but my mom always tell me they have millions

make up artist, fashion people to make them look hot

if everyone in the world had that type of help

we all would look 10x hotter

just understand that you are pretty  and  you dont have compare yourself

Answer 20

i no how you feel.

-but looking at your pics compared w/ the ones of adriana lima i think you kinda look like her.!!!!

your so pretty.!!!!!

but you have to remember thats their jobs -to look amazing coz their selling a product.

i totally agree w/ of the statement about the media.

-you seem like such a smart girl.!!

and you r gorgeous.!!

just try and remember that.!!

xo.

Answer 21

Uh I'm not sure why people are being so mean you posted this question for a reason but anyways your pretty idk how to help though maybe try thinking about different things when you go out  

Answer 22

You don't need to do this to yourself.. you look great and i bet you would look really cute naturally(not a hole lot of makeup)

personally, in a girl i like very minimal makeup. high matinance is sometimes considered a turnoff.. and holy cow your only 14.. there is no reason to think this way. just live life without so much worry. you will look hotter than them when your their age lol

p.s. im not old either im 16.

Answer 23

Hii first off I am going to say im sorry that some people have to be so rude and make mean answers me yahoo answers is to get advice and not mean comments thrown at you.

You are such a pretty girl and I would love to be as pretty as you. You need to remember that you are very pretty and you seem to have a little confidence in yourself. I think your main goal is to gain confidence. It seems like you have it but when you see these pictures you make yourself upset. I suggest not looking at those pictures anymore because you are going to stress yourself.

Also remember in all of those pictures they are modeling so that means they have professional make-up artists doing their hair and makeup which is why they are looking flawless. I am sure they are pretty in real life just like you but for fashion shows they have to be all glamed up.

I do agree that how the media portrays people is wrong because they think the only look in being skinny, having big b***s, and long legs but that isnt everything. I am sure half of those models arent as nice as you are =)

Just remember you are a pretty girl, and focus on your school stuff like you said and in the back of your mind remember these girls are always being airbrushed to look amazing. Im not saying totally forget about it because it means your passionate about looking beautiful but dont make it an unhealthy habit.

Hope this helps..*

Answer 24

Actually alot of girls compare themselves to other girls.. its been a game for years.. Honestly i hate it when girls stare at me.. It makes me feel very uncomfortable.. (as it probably would for you too)  

You just have to be happy with what you got. Your very cute so you have nothing to worry about. Pshh those superstar models have professional makeup artists and hairdressers.. they will always "appear" to look better in magazines and such but you may change your mind when you see them in real life.

Whats the point of even comparing yourself to them when they have a different facial structure and everything?? No one can look exactly like someone else.. So why not enhance your features and be you.. And let other girls look at you instead of you looking.. Its so stupid. Girls that stare make other girls feel like somethings wrong with them. I used to think something was wrong with me when i first started getting that.

If you wanna boost up your confidence a bit more try a different hair style or new makeup or something.. Or talk to mee and i can help you :] Just know no matter how good you end up looking theres always going to be someone around the corner that you feel looks better.. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and im sure some special guy is going to find you #1. Alright i hope you have a good night. And just please be happy with yourself!! I always like to make myself look better too but being confident is the first step.  

Answer 25

Pretty girls are a dime a dozen.  Personally speaking, your physically prettier than the VS models, but your attitude towards other's negative answers shows a lack of maturity and an uglier side of you.  A beautiful woman is one who looks outside herself and cares for the needs of others, and can forgive easily.

Answer 26

Victoria's Secret models are, in my opinion, the most beautiful women in the modeling industry. They've got amazing bodies, not stick thin, and have beautiful faces, but there's no need to compare yourself to them, because NO one is comparing you to them, and btw, you're stunning. I don't say that very often, but you've got gorgeous eyes.

I def. understand where you're coming from, and just keep your head up high.

Good luck! <3