Am i a tease???????/?

Question

just to let ya know,, im using my friends account. me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 1 year and he is my best friend in the whole world. i can tell him anything and he is always

there for me. weve never had s*x because i always make him stop before we go to far. well recently, weve been going a little farther than usual and i feel really bad because he gets so excited and then i say stop. he always stops when i tell him to even tho i can tell hes dissapointed lol. i want to have s*x and am and deffinetly ready. whats stopping me is the fear of getting pregnant. i know that we could use condoms but theres still a poss of getting pg. i dont wanna get on birth control bc im really not good about taking things at the right time lol. so i was wondering, where would i get the morning after pill?? iv heard there really expensive. and also, im going to the gyno in a coupleof days and should i tell her that im thinking about having s*x?? i guess shes really the one i should be talking to about this but i thought that id ask you guys first. and is the morning after pill guaranteed to work??

Answer 1

yea the pill works but you have to be 18 years or older to buy them.you could still use condoms.the chances of you getting pregs are very slim.be smart getting pregs is not the only thing to worry about.what about stds.

Answer 2

You're not a tease, your intentions are obviously otherwise. It's good you're concerned about pregnancy, but don't be too worried about it.

In all honesty, it's the lack of responsibility in the moment that make the accidents happen. Condoms are 99% effective so long as they are used right and you can catch it if it breaks. Even if it does, there are options.

Plenty of people have responsible s*x and never get pregnant. The key is to keep aware of what's going on down there and make sure you use a condom EVERY TIME! Do not take risks, and don't be afraid to run to a store to get them if you don't have them.

Answer 3

Tell your gyno. She'll be major help through this whole thing. She'll discuss your best birth control options (but if you're not into everyday pills.. try researching nuvaring. I don't know if it's still as dangerous as it was a year ago, so check on that.) Your gyno can go into much better detail about the best method of birth control for you though.

Don't depend on the morning after pill. That's for emergencies/accidents

Oh. And your not a tease. You sound pretty responsible, and obviously have a boyfriend who loves and respects you. Congrats and be safe.

Answer 4

well, its a good thing you know everything... I knew everything at your age too... the older I get the less I know. Listen, s*x at your age is a disappointing situation. It isent good because the you guys dont know what your doing. You are going to feel pain and he is gonna be done in less then a minute. Its gonna leave you feeling depressed and let down. It also causes emotional drama... and you will be really hurt when and if things dont work out between you and him. All this, plus, you have to worry about pregnacy, STD's, HIV, ruined reputation, parents, the list goes on... Just take that into consideration... BTW, if your not mature enough to take a little pill once a day, your not mature enough to have s*x...

EDIT: "I am not really good at taking things on time. lol..." thats all I have to say.

Answer 5

First of all, there are a lot of contraceptives out there besides condoms and birth control pills.

Secondly, I seriously hope you aren't considering the morning after pill as a contraceptive. Of course its an "emergency" contraceptive technically, but I personally wouldn't use it, and you should keep condoms with you all the time.

Thirdly, if you're that afraid of getting pregnant, you're really not that ready to have s*x. You need to be emotionally and mentally capable of handling the consequences of s*x. Have you thought about what you would IF you got pregnant? Most female teenagers don't think about this and that's why they get themselves into that situation.  What about STDs?  

Definitely speak to your gynecologist about your situation, what you're planning on doing, and ask about other forms of birth control that suits your lifestyle.  

Answer 6

You should definitely tell your gyno, the morning after pill is not a method of birth control and it is not 100% effective. For the best protection you should ask your gyno for birth control AND use condoms everytime.

Answer 7

This would not make you a "Tease". Definitely tell your GYN! Tell your bf to pull out right before or you could use an alternate "o*****e" near the end.

Answer 8

you need counseling

Answer 9

Condoms are your best bet. The possibility of getting preg that way is very very slim. I don't think your too young bcause you are thinking about this very maturely. I was 17 when I lost my virginity. I don't know anything about the morning pill but I don't trust it. Talk to your gyno she will give you all the right information.  

Answer 10

What's with teenagers that are so in a hurry to have s*x?! I mean don't get me wrong I was just as curious as you but all you people talk about is s*x this and s*x that. You know there is more to life then just s*x!

We can speculate till we're blue in the face if we want to have s*x. Seriously, it will haunt you. Your immature speculation will cost you!

Answer 11

there are birth control shots [taken every 3 months]

and also birth control patches [changed weekly]

i wouldn't recommend the morning after pill because that's like a one-time deal. if you are planning to have s*x you should be smart about it and think about the long run. and by that, i mean birth control for the long run. not just the morning after

Answer 12

You can't use the morning after pill as a form of birth control that often, it will seriously mess you up. To answer your question, yes, you are a tease and that probably SERIOUSLY pisses him off and it is downright mean! Use condoms, they are effective, I used them for two years and didn't get pregnant and we had s*x like five times a day then. If you can't remember a pill, you can get the Depo Provera shot, it is a progesterone only shot and you get it once every three months and it is a VERY effective form of BC, moreso than condoms or the pill. So don't have s*x until you have taken measures to approppriatley assure that you are not paranoid about pregnancy any longer and quit teasing your poor boyfriend in the meantime, that is just awful. The morning after pill is around seventy dollars and it will be painful to take it and if you take it often it will seriously mess you up. That is a very dumb choice for you to make as BC. Tell your doctor and discuss the shot with her, but please research it on the internet first a lot before you take it and so you know what questions to ask your doctor about it because some people really hate it. I've been on it for nine months and hardly any problems, no weight gain or anything, but it did nake me moody, anyway, I heard the crappy part about the shot is coming off it, but it's convenient and will NOT get you pregnant. STOP TEASING YOUR BOYFRIEND! USE BIRTH CONTROL, BE SMART ABOUT IT

Answer 13

I don't think you are a tease. You are both young and growing up together and he sounds like a lovely boy who respects your wishes. It takes time to feel comfortable about the idea of having s*x and if playing around first helps you get ready then that's fine. If you are really set on doing it then ask your doctor to put you on birth control. Condoms are fine but not always reliable and can break. I personally have never been on birth control as I don't like the idea of controlling nature but I know that most women do not feel that way and do eventually go on it. It's probably the best way! If you use condoms though, maybe as an extra precaution ask your boyfriend to pull out before he ejaculates. It's not 100% guaranteed to work but I have been having s*x for six years that way and I have never fallen pregnant. I would not recommend the morning after pill for several reasons. 1. It doesn't always work, my cousin took it and now has a beautiful five year old son. 2. It's not good for your body as it is essentially like a very early abortion-it destroys the fertilised egg. If you take it and and are not pregnant I don't know what happens but again, it can't be good for your body. Be careful and good luck!  

Answer 14

stop making it a big deal condoms work fine just not the ultra thin they break alot .... if your ready go for it ... dont worry about falling pregnant condoms have never failed for me.... morning after pill isnt expensive if you wanna be safe take it just see your local gp and have a talk to them they will always help and they cant tell a soul patient confidentiality....

Answer 15

Hey girl. Well first of all I would say yes you are being a tease.  But I totally understand you. Yes you want it too but you have to think about him too. It's harder for guys to control themselves at this age than it is for girls. He may end up going to another girl if you keep teasing him and I'm sure you don't want that. There are 3 days out of the month that you can get pregnant during ovulation so if you go with that and a condom you should be good.  The morning after pill is only for emergencies and should be taken seriously. Like if the condom broke during those 3 days but then you also have to worry about std's. A trip with the gyno is still very important though. Good luck! You have a good head on your shoulders to think this through ahead of time.

Answer 16

yes