Am i antisocial?

Question

I've never been to any dances or semi-formals in high school. I am in grade 11 right now.

I do have friends, but I don't hang out at all. I play basketball everyday because I want to be a pro basketball player. I have a lot of acquaintances but not close friends that I hang out with.

Next year, I am graduating and I don't want to go to prom or grad next year. Am I antisocial?

Answer 1

I wouldn't say anti-social, just non-social. Anti-social means more of behaviour that goes against societal acceptance (graffiti, for example, is an anti-social behaviour; so is stealing or lying). Not everybody needs to have lots of friends and interact like that all the time. There's nothing whatsoever wrong with it if it's just because you're not interested.

Answer 2

No, you just have different priorities, which will probably serve you better in the long run. Far too many high school kids behave like parties are the point of life and then whine about their poor grades and never achieving anything in life. Don't feel bad about being yourself and stick with what you are comfortable with. Proms are sad, shallow things and a waste of time and money.

Answer 3

It sounds like you're an introvert. Welcome to the club; nobody will bother you here.

Are you capable of socializing with people? Can you adhere to basic societal norms? If you can, you're not antisocial.

You have friends, but you're not in to hanging out. Sounds like me. Sounds like my dad, who's a successful lawyer.

I have no interest in going to a prom, and don't care much about a graduation ceremony. Those things matter more to some people than others.

Don't sweat it.

Answer 4

A person is antisocial only if they don't care to hang out with friends, or they don't care to do any activities with people or involve themselves in relationships with people. An antisocial person likes to keep to themselves and enjoys being alone. I know this because I am antisocial, but I still make myself do things with friends so as not to be rude.

Answer 5

You are not antisocial, but I have worse news for you.

You career aspirations are very unreal.  

Are you the best player in your league (high school or AAU)?  Do you have a box full of letters from college coaches?

Even if the answers are "yes", the odds are way against you.  If they are "no", it's definitely time to refocus.

Basketball is a great game.  If you are very talented, and work very hard (all year long), maybe you'll be able to play in college.

But, academics should be where you concentrate your efforts if you want a bright future.