Am i being child abused?

Question

im 12 and my mom slaps me in the face like 20 times before. she calls me ugly at times and my stepdad slaps my blood-related brother and wrestled him down onto the ground before. he called me a bitc* and makes us do SO MANY chores without any reward. they show affection sometimes and do support me in some things but i really don't like how they treat me and my brother...

Answer 1

Nope , it's called discipline ,  

Answer 2

I dont want to jump the gun and say you're being abused, but the way you are being treated is not right at all. Speak to a relative you trust about it, and see what can be done. Try your grandparents.

Answer 3

Yes it is a form of child abuse. HOWEVER you have to decide how bad it really is. Many people get abused as children and grow up to be fine healthy adults.

The thing is if you report your parents to the department of social services and child welfare they will immediately take you and your brother to live in a foster home. And the foster home will be scary and maybe better but probably worse. You will bounce from foster home to foster home, dealing with new "parents" who may treat you worse. Foster parents are regular people who get paid a little bit of money to take care of several unwanted or abused children all at once. You would probably be separated from your brother.

So you would be living in a new house with foster parents and sharing a room with other kids. You may get neglected or treated badly there too.

So basically do not report your parents for child abuse unless it is really really bad at home. If you are scared your parents will kill you, like beat you or your brother to death. Or if they starve you or torture you somehow then tell your schools counselor and tell them to call the police. Or call the police yourself and say you and your brother are abused.

But do not call the police if you dont think they will kill you or torture you. Try to stay at school, be part of after school programs. Hang out at friends houses. Try to stay away from your parents as much as possible. Out of sight, out of mind. If you behave and stay away from them as much as possible it will be easier to handle.

My parents slapped me, yelled at me, said horrible things to me all the time. My brothers verbally and physically abused me. But still I know it was better than if I had been taken to a foster home.

So you decide how bad it is. And explain this to your brother so he doesnt consider calling the police.