Am i being descriminated?

Question

Ok im a 20 year old Emo-punk guy, i have my ear plugs, snakebites, left sleeve tattoo, i love playin guitar, vidgames and watchin anime.

I live in southwest detroit so most of da population r latinos or afroamerican gangsters/rappers/hip hoppers, however u wanna call it. Da point is i oftenly receive rude comments bout my apparel and hobbies, like "ur 2 old 2 b dressin like that", "anime is 4 kids", "y da h**l u did that 2 ur ears?", etc.

Honestly i love how i am and what i do, i cant c myself ever quittin what i do, but i wanna know what u guys think, am i really 2 old 4 this stuff? or am i bein descriminated? any comments r welcome and thanx 4 readin.

Answer 1

its simple, do what you want to do,it's America And I fought so you can do this. Remember though, that with what ever life style you pick comes baggage. In your case the baggage is the comments, possibly not getting a girlfriend, or a premo job. But you need to weigh whats more important to your happiness. Nobody else will look out for you.

Answer 2

That's life. I went through that phase (well, each interest in separate phases). I got over anime after going to Japan and realizing everything I thought was cool was really a farce. I wore emo-punk (not as hard core as you) garb but knew I could pull it off since I'm not ugly or fat :). But now that I work for a company I make sure to look professional. I regret dying half my hair black and I could always risk getting fired if the new company that bought us out notices. Real life cannot be lived as an emo-punk-otaku-videogame nerd (though I will always remain a videogame nerd) but you can take certain elements of your lifestyle and maybe try to find a place and job where you fit in. Obviously where you live right now you're surrounded by an opposite crowd. The sad thing about people that have your lifestyle is that I left them all behind at a S****y job in a basement full of asbestos to move on while they instead are still stuck there, some of them are depressed, and some are stoned or worse all because their life choices affect their social lives and their work opportunities. I really do think though that it will eventually wear off. You're still young and honestly I think nobody should be considered an adult until they're well past their 30s. So do what you're doing and be who you are at the moment. Who you are will change and eventually you will fit in with the rest of us but you can always retain your love for Halo, Hellsing and all things Hot Topic. Is it discrimination? Sure. People are discriminated against all the time. If not because they're part of the emo group, then because they're part of the preppy group, or the douchebag group, or the too fat, or too skinny, or too plain or too fancy group. None of it makes anyone a bad person so let people talk. If it really does bother you and you find it within yourself that maybe you need to make some changes in order to advance in life than do so but if you feel that your life is stable the way it is then do what every other emo/goth/black/nerd or whatever does, and just deal with it. People will be rude to you about one thing or another because people just love to whine and *****.

If you say you love yourself then you know what to do and you eventually will know if you're comfortable enough with yourself to deal with it or you need to make changes. If it weren't for the fact that my over sized head phones broke I'd still be wearing them today regardless of my boyfriend telling me they look ridiculous :).

And anyway, you could always become the next famous punk rockstar!

Answer 3

maybe peoples comments are justified, and sometimes the truth hurts. listen to what people are saying, then think about it realistically, then you must ask yourself is it true. you have to live with yourself and are you proud of what, and who you are..

Answer 4

Hello, I am Alexandra from Romania

this question is not placed correctly - this is Travel - Europe Continental...

I admit I had a few problems to understand your "writing", but I saw that you are polite and interested about how other people see you, so I decided to tell you my oppinion.

First of all: I think we all need appreciation for who we are, for what we do! If we hear day after day, negative comments about how we look, how we speak... we start thinking that something is wrong with us.



If I were you, I would ask myself in the mirror:  

"Do you think there is anything wrong about you? If your honest answer is "No", you can go on!

If your answer is "maybe", try to change what you think is inappropriate with your age or what can help you regain respect of others!"

I would do anything to feel better...we are speaking here about the most important person in the world: ME   :)