Am i being selfish??//

Question

i have been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs. we have a 2yr old son and a baby girl on the way in october. we have a 8 yr age difference. its gna be a year since we moved in and i feel like he never wants to be home with us. he wakes up at 10 am and always says some reason to go out like he neds to get something in the store or was lke 3 pieces of clothes. then he leaves by 1pm to go to work. and dosnt get home till like 1 or 2 depending if its a weekend or not. and he has no days off. he could get another job which will give him sundays off and any holidays unlike his other 1 which is all yr ugh. he would just get payed 100 less a wk but h**l get it to his regular pay after 3 mths of working there. am i being too much by always telling him he just dsnt want to be with us????? help

Answer 1

Yes

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Answer 2

it could be his only alone time so to speak. i loved working part time to "get away".  he may be overwhelmed.  try some alone time with him.  make dates.  see if that helps or if he even will

Answer 3

Of course he doesn't want to be there... he has allowed himself to become enslaved. You are reinforcing that by telling him that he doesn't want to be with you. See if you can get the two of you in for marriage counseling to find common ground to rebuild your relationship.

Guys are so basic that they will absolutely take advantage of an opportunity to get the full benefits of marriage without the commitment.

You put the cart before the horse by not getting a full commitment <marriage> before breeding. This is a common mistake made by girls these days. If you don't believe me, keep reading Yahoo Answers.

Like it or not, you have 2 kids that you will likely rear ALONE... the best you can probably hope for would be a divorce and child support.

I would suggest that you take steps to make yourself independent as quickly as possible after that baby is born. Recruit some day-care help among your friends and family while you go back to work.  

Answer 4

You're probably right, Crystal, but saying so isn't very smart. If you keep at him about this, it's only likely to get worse. Frankly, I'd tell you to kick his sorry a-- to the curb, but you have two little ones you have to worry about.

I know it's tough for you right now, with a little one and one on the way. But, when he does come home, go out of your way to be sweet. Nagging at him will only cause him to bolt out the doorway again.

Looks like you made a poor choice to father your kids, hun. But you've got to make it work now, because your children need him. Do the best you can.