Am i being stupid? PLEASE HELP

Question

I just got off the phone with my friend Yanina. She was really excited. When i asked her why she said "I got Ryan to pop my cherry". Then i froze. Ryan and i had broken up this morning (cause he was trying 2 feel me up and i decided i liked this other guy more then him). Yani is my age (13). I asked her if he used a condom and she said they did at first but it didn't feel good so they took it off.

I m mad for 2 reasons.

1. Ryan and i just broke up this morning and he is already having s*x with one of my friends probably to get revenge on me.

2.He didn't even respect her enough to wear a condom for the whole thing!! She could be pregnant. Should i get her to take the test? I don,t know what to do but i know this...i don't think i can ever look at Yani the same way again. I will still be her friend but...it just doesn't feel right. Am i being stupid?

Answer 1

Your friend Yanina is not going to be able to take a pregnancy test for at least two weeks, and it isn't up to you to get her to take one anyway. This was her decision, so it's also HER problem now.

And she wouldn't be having this problem if she hadn't hopped into bed with someone just hours after you broke up with him.

Answer 2

You are not being stupid or overreacting at all. First off if she was a true friend she wouldn't have slept with someone who you just broke up with, and having s*x at 13 is completely irresponsible and stupid. Would she be able to take care of a baby right now? Most likely no. She wasn't even in love with him and he sounds like a person that just wants to sleep around with multiple girls. He is a perv!  

Answer 3

no you are not being stupid. Did your friend know you guys were dating? if so then she is trash and not your friend. I wouldn't about it even if she is pregnant that would be their problem. I would forget both of them. You are right he did it to get revenge on you but the revenge may be on him if she is pregnant.

Answer 4

thast crazzy, your drieind had s*x with your ex boyfriiend liek teh day you guys broke up, just be there for her, and if it turns out she isnt preggers then tell ehr you didnt appreciate her doiign that, if you ask me, your being way too cool about teh whoel thiiiing, way to go, good luck . <3

Answer 5

first off all Ryan is an idiot. He isn't trying to get revenge on you he is just trying to get it from who ever will give it too him. Your friend is dumb to 1st off have s*x with your boyfriend and second off to not use a condom and third to call and brag to you about it. If she was really your friend then would have never done that. I would probably still be her friend but i dont think i could ever look at her the same.

Answer 6

You need to tell Yani to go on too. The whole thing sounds like it was meant to hurt you, on Yani's part too. It is too soon to take a test. Yani was suppose to be your friend? You don't need friends like that. There is something fishy there, besides Yani!

Answer 7

no your not , this guy is a player , just be glad it wasn't you who got played. now take her to get a morning after pill other wise known as a 'plan B' this will stop any embryos implanting themselves , stopping her getting pregnant. She should also go to her doctor and get an STD test because if this guy is a player god knows what he has caught.

remember, pregnancy wont kill you but AIDS will.

support her , its not the first stupid thing she will do and it wont be the last. your all teens , lots of mistakes to make. feel sorry for her.

Answer 8

i would be pissed if that was my friend im sure she knew you guys where together and that you just broke up with him

your really nice to want to help her because if that was me i would be praying she got pregnant

Answer 9

first she is too young to be having s*x

second its too early to tell if shes knocked up.

third you should be her friend anymore. she disrespected you as a friend. my advice leave her alone.

good luck your better off. and wait to have s*x until your older!

Answer 10

Never talk to both fo them again. If she was your friend, she wouldnt go out with your ex-bf. No offense but to me, she ounds like a mini two cent w***e and shes only 13

Answer 11

Nope, not at all. In fact, if I were you, I'd probably slap them both silly then go into depression.

You should get her to take the test. If she is preggo, she should be able to have her options.

Answer 12

your not stupid..

they're stupid...

Answer 13

You aren't being stupid.  Get her to take the test because there is a huge possibility she might be pregnant!

You should be mad because that's your friend and she knew that you two broke up THIS MORNING.  Ryan is getting revenge for you breaking up with him, but if he went so far as to have s*x with your friend, you made the right decision.  You'll feel that discomfort around your friend for a while, but unless she is pregnant, that feeling will go away after a while.

Answer 14

That's a good thing you ditched that guy, he's not worth it.

The only thing kids your age should be doing is little pecks on the cheek!

If your friend went and randomly had s*x with your ex (and he only just broke up with you this morning!) then she's not worth your time.

Answer 15

If you're only 13 and you're having s*x then that's stupid. You're too young.

Answer 16

no you are not being mad. doesn't she know about the code: you are not suppose to date your friends ex! you should be mad at not only ryan but your friend too, obviously she doesn't have respect for you. suggest that she take the test, you can't make her.

Answer 17

You are not being stupid.

You have every right to be angry with what the both of them have done.

1. Ryan is a jerk anyway. You were better off without him. And he probably was trying to get back at you by sleeping with her.

2. Yanina is not much of a friend because, first of all, she would have never slept with an ex of yours. The thought should have never even crossed her mind..

And it is hard to be friends with a person once they have betrayed you. If you feel differently about her now, you definitely need to rethink continuing the friendship with her.. You honestly have no reason under the sun to be friends with her, because she was not a friend to you..

Leave both of them in the past and move on to find a true friend and a better boyfriend.. You do not need people like that in your life!