Am i being too cold-hearted?

Question

i just found out my grandfather died a few minutes ago. everyone else is upset but i'm the only one who's not crying. the minute i found out he had cancer a few weeks ago, i knew it was only a matter of time before he died. i didn't feel any sadness when my mom told my sister and me. am i being a little bit too harsh about this knowing he was going to die anyways?

btw- i'm 14

Answer 1

Not necessarily.  If you didn't have a really close relationship with him, then his death might not mean much either way.   On the other hand if you did have a tight relationship, you could be in denial still.  Regardless, from a humanitarian perspective, if you have cancer, the end is always painful so the quicker it's over, the more merciful the end.  You know yourself best, so think about your feelings.  So long as you're convinced their honest and true feelings, you've got no worries.  Good Luck

Answer 2

Its not that you don't care, you just can't express it. Eventually you will work it out. Do what is right for you and don't worry about anyone else. Its not a sign of not loving your grandfather, its a defense mechanism to keep you from feeling so much pain. Eventually as you get through the days and good memories of him come, you will express your grief in a way that is comfortable for you. Until then, simply tell people that you know he loved you, you will miss him terribly but you can't be sorry that he's no longer in pain. I'm sorry for the loss of your grandpa.  

Answer 3

Every one deals with death different ways ,its sometimes normal not to feel anything at first ,its just the way your dealing with it !

Answer 4

you just handeling it your own way dats all  and since it was a few minutes ago you found out it probably hasn't sunk in for you yet and since you mentaly prepared yourself for it it wont be as hard as if it was out of the blue. Dont worry your not being cold hearted

Answer 5

You are not cold hearted.  Everyone handles sickness and death differently.  I myself did not cry when my father passed away from cancer.  For me I felt he was not suffering anymore.