Am i being verbally abused?

Question

Well, my uncle lives with my mom and i. He always gets on my case because i'm messy. But he calls me names and threatens me. Today i was making iced tea and he comes down and starts being very mean. He called me names and threatened me. He called me zit face (i have bad acne that i'm very sensitive about) and called me the B word and the C word, and he started swearing at me for no reason, then he threatened me by saying that he was going to kick my as. I don't know what his problem is. Oh and my mom sometimes defends him, saying stuff like "well you are very messy, and he's sick of it" okay, i know i can be a slob, but that does not give him the right to be as mean as he was to me. Oh, and he yelled so loud at me that our neighbors called the police. I was crying too. This happened an hour ago and i'm still shaking. Is this abuse? how can i make it stop?

- Oh and he constantly calls my mother names, but she doesnt do anything, but i stand up for her (calling him names back) i don't care who you are, you don't talk to my mother like the way he talks to her. Am i wrong for calling him names back?

Answer 1

Yes that is abuse! Not only verbal but mental and emotional. What did the cops do when they arrived?? Did you tell them anything? You need to. Is there anyone you can talk to? Like a school counsler maybe or a close family friend? You need to talk to someone about it and get your family help or else this will cause serious problems further down the road.

Answer 2

Tell him off, but be careful!! He sounds like one of those crazy anti-feminists. Don't let your mother defend him, go to someone outside your family, like a counselor or church group leader, or even a neighbor. That's abuse.

I hope I helped, stay strong, your about thirteen fourteen right??? Good luck, try some of the above, again I hope they help!!! :(

Answer 3

it sounds to me like he's trying to be protective, but its gone way too far. if i were you, i would seek out professional help. if it gets to the point where he starts hurting you, physically, i mean, then call the police.

Answer 4

I hope you reported this to the police that came as a result of your neighbors calling.

The next time he is verbally abusive, call the police on him.  Tell them that you were scared for your safety.  

Your mom may get angry with you but if you do this (call the police) each and every time he rants and raves, he might get the picture and stop ranting and/or move out.

Your mother may be allowing this abuse from your uncle because he is helping out financially (??) and feels that because she is indebted to him she has no grounds to say anything.  That's bunk.  She does not have to tolerate that.

As for you screaming names back him . . . don't.  he sounds very unstable and you don't know when he will snap and freak out on you.  Just call the cops.  

Answer 5

Well it is not right that he calls you names.You guys are family and that is to me,verbal abuse.But you should respect your elders though no matter how mean they are.It's hard to say what you could do to make it stop.You could definitely pray to GOD about this for sure. GOD is the only one who can ultimately handle this.You also should set down with your mother and talk to her about this.Maybe you should gain your uncle's respect.Instead of being sloppy,make sure he sees you cleaning up your room.Try clearing up your zits on your face.If you feel that your mother is taking up for your uncle then ask why she is doing that then.Talk to your uncle as well.I believe that is verbal abuse and you should talk to him about it.But talk to GOD as well though.GOD is always listening.GOD loves you and GOD does care about you.I really hope that I helped you in one way or another so GOD BLESS you!