Am i crazy for wanting these things from my new bf?

Question

a. stop asking me to pay for things (even if it doesnt cost so much) your the man and you need to pay.

b. if i do want to pay you need to take the money and pay not have your girl paying

c. act like you want to be around me

d. show me more affection

e. talk to me, want to get to know me

f. if you cant wait for us to have s*x and respect that im not sure youre someone i want to give it up to yet then you can leave. (i mean we just met a couple weeks ago)

g. stop looking at other girls when you're around me

h. when i bring something up stop getting mad at me and address it so i feel better about whatever it is, show me you care enough to fix the problem

Answer 1

A and B -- yes, you're crazy.  Being in a relationship does NOT mean you are suddenly not obligated to pay for anything.  That's lame, and it makes you sound like a gold digger.

C, D, E -- perfectly normal.  A guy who dates you should want to do those things.  (Keep in mind with D though, not all guys are physically affectionate, and if he can't provide what you want, you need to find someone who can.)

F -- good idea all around

G -- crazy.  Everyone looks.  To ask him not to look would be as futile as saying "Infants need to stop crying."  It just won't happen.  Ever.  Just know that looking and touching are very different.  It's okay to look.  We all do.

H -- This is going to be a tough one.  How well it works depends on you both.  You need to have great communication skills in order to work through something without anger.  Talk about it openly and honestly, don't accuse, and actually listen.  Then you'll be okay.

Answer 2

SEEMS LIKE YOU NEED TO GET RID OF HIM

IF YOU EVEN HAVE TO ASK FOR ALL THOSE THINGS..

HE IS OVIOUSLY NOT SERIOUS ABOUT UR RELATIONSHIP THUS YOUR TOO GOOD FOR HIM AND NEED TO FIND BETTER

KICK HIS *** TO THE CURB

Answer 3

It's not wrong for wanting him to change a little

He doesn't sound too much like boyfriend material... but don't be to rude to him when telling him these things.

Maybe you two should talk.

Answer 4

a. Um...it's not the 50s anymore. It's rude now to make him pay all the time.

b. What? No, if you want to pay, you should pay. Going dutch isn't a bad thing.

c-f: Perfectly fine.

g: Well he probably will anyway, but you can tell him and see if he at least makes it subtle.

h: Well it depends on what you're bringing up. If it's something that would make him mad, then just accept it. If he's just randomly getting mad, then yes, talk to him about it. But it's not his job to make you feel better. It's his job to talk to you about what you bring up and try to help you fix the problem, but he's not obligated to make you feel better.

Think a little more of him.

Answer 5

I don't think there crazy at all.  

a.  I agree the man should pay most the time but i like it when my girl takes me out too.

c.  He should want to be around with you.  Having a gf or bf means you have a great friend that you enjoy doing stuff with.

d.  Some are less affectionate than others.  Find one that meets your needs

g.  This is the only I have a problem with it's ok to check someone out just dont stare.

Answer 6

that's very demanding for a 2 week old relationship.  if you don't feel comfortable with him you need to end it now, its sounds like it isn't even fun to be around him.  im not even sure i would ask the questions, i would just leave.

Answer 7

Question a. stop asking me to pay for things (even if it doesnt cost so much) your the man and you need to pay.

Answer: Yes you are crazy.  Just because he has a p***s does not mean he pays for everything. Take turns treating eachother. He is your partner, not your bank.

Question b. if i do want to pay you need to take the money and pay not have your girl paying

Answer: Yes you are crazy. What is the difference between you handing over your money or him handing over your money?

Question c. act like you want to be around me

Answer: He should WANT to be around you, not ACT like he wants to be around you.

Question d. show me more affection

Answer: If you love him unconditionally, he should show you more affection.

Question e. talk to me, want to get to know me

Answer: He should. But only if you are genuinely inteerested in him, not his wallet.

Question f. if you cant wait for us to have s*x and respect that im not sure youre someone i want to give it up to yet then you can leave. (i mean we just met a couple weeks ago)

Answer: You are not crazy.  If he doesn't respect you then he needs to move on.

Question g. stop looking at other girls when you're around me

Answer: You're crazy. He will never stop looking at women. When he stops looking, he's dead.

Question h. when i bring something up stop getting mad at me and address it so i feel better about whatever it is, show me you care enough to fix the problem

Answer: You're not crazy.  Anger never solves a problem. Discussion and objectivity does.

Answer 8

wow i would never date you and Im not even a man.  Here's some advice from an adult:  men look at other women, they will always look at other women, it's in their genetic makeup, just like women like to nag.  Next, if a man doesn't act like he wants to be around you, it's because (dee dee dee) he doesn't!  Last, why don't you get a job so you can pay once in a while?  Why are you depending on someone else to support and entertain you?

Answer 9

As for (a), it makes you sound like a greedy gold digger. If it is the man's responsibility to always pay, then what is the woman's responsibility?  Ever think that he didn't have much money either?

Answer 10

he sounds like a total pig...... dumb his a$$