Am i doing the right thing???

Question

So me and my sons father have decided to be friends about a week ago. Well he decided. But he still calls everyday and asks if i want to come over. Yesterday i went but when he asked if i wanted to stay i said no....that it wasnt part of the friend plan. So today he calls and were talkin...he calls me baby and i asked him not to again. he said sorry then my name. Then he asks if i want to have s*x i say no that i dont want to. I just want to kno if i'm doin the right thing. I do want him back but i want him to change. I think he still wants me around just by the way hes acting. Am i going on like i should to let him see that i wont be around if i'm not his girl or should i ease up??

Answer 1

Respect yourself enough to know you did the right thing. s*x will be different for you than it would be for him. s*x to him will be...well...s*x. To you because you still want him so much it will make you cling to the hope he loves you or wants to be with you....and that may not change just because you have s*x with him.

I think if the two of you get back together it should be both of you wanting it. Date him again, dont just sleep with him. Talk about the things that need to change....but like you said, he called things off and may not want to change.

I wish you love and luck.

:-)

Answer 2

Ok from what I can tell this man wants the s*x but not the commitment and in no way shape or form is this good for your son. And as a dad he should know that he is putting you in a messed up situation. I'd tell him straight and say "Hey you made your bed you lie in it" I know it will be hard if you still want him back but you've gotta think of whats right for your son too. This man sounds like a player, I wouldn't want him in my life for sure.

Good luck

Answer 3

You are doing exactly the right thing. If he wants to be just friends then that exactly what he should get. No benefits. Don't let him play one side against the other by wanting to be friends but still act married to you.

Answer 4

Well you need to have & display respect for yourself. You should not let him have it both ways. You are either in a relationship or your just friends. He is a man and if he fool around with others and still get some action from you he will. You need to demand respect and remember you are also teaching your sons what a woman will or will not accept from a man and essentially letting them know how they should treat a lady.

If you do not have respect for yourself who will?