Am i in the wrong in this situation?

Question

an ex girlfriend of mine has lied to me a lot of times about various things. recently i bought some plane tickets to visit her in norway (as shes working there) but she said she has to work during the 2 weeks that im there, and i cant stay with her. i wasnt sure if she was saying this just cos shed changed her mind about seeing me or something, so i told her i didnt trust her. then she got kind of annoyed and told me i shouldnt be friends with some one i didnt trust etc. (she has a point there.) but i dont know if i should be feeling guilty? cos i actually broke up with her because she used to lie to me, and she just made me lose 55 quid or so on tickets, and she didnt bother calling me about it to tell me if she could change when she was working. (her excuse for not calling me is that she couldnt afford it, which is stupidly ridiculous.) she also didnt call on my 20th birthday on friday.

so should i feel bad? or is she just being selfish/ manipulative in trying to make me feel bad and telling me im upsetting her and she doesnt want me as a friend?

please just give an honest opinion.

thank you

Answer 1

Move on.

Answer 2

Seeing this from both sides of the fence, I would say that you could have been a bit more tactful in your approach! It seems that there is a definite communicational break down! Why couldn't you have just said, look it was arranged for me to stay with you, now I am stuck, at late notice with nowhere to stay. I am coming over to visit you purely on a friendship basis, so isn't there any way I could stay with you, or one of your friends, since I have already bought the flight tickets? But, on the other hand, she should have given you plenty of notice, like as soon as she found out, that she had changed the plans. & for that reason alone, I would say that she is definitely the one in the wrong in this situation. I would probably call her, & say that you don't want to waste any more of your time on her at the moment & that maybe when she has grown up a bit, she is welcome to get in touch again. Let her stew on it a while!

Answer 3

she obviously doesnt like you and you did the right thing to break up with her. im sure she didnt wanna do it to you cause she would have felt bad. just move on it wasnt right anyways. when people do stuff like the way she did its usually a sign they dont want you anymore

Answer 4

i dont know what zambian is but if you are american then im just going to say tell her and if she disagress then yes she is selfish but yea if you cant trust her then just leave her alone.  

Answer 5

i don't think that ur wrong because if she has lied to u on may occations u have the right to dump her and if she doesn't want to make time for u why should you even bother???