Am i just being stupid or is he?

Question

ok well i broke up with my ex a month or so ago due to fact that he was asking other girls for s*x and i just yeah didnt think that was right! adn so now he just like saying that i lied cus i said i would never leave him, but i sadi i would if he done anything unfaithful. he also saying that he wishes he was dead and im making it worse cus i left him and now he cant find someone else and everytime i say im happy he just brings me down saying like i cant find any one else and stuff like that! he was fine with breaking up didnt really seemed to care but now that he cant find anotehr girlfriend hes taking it out on me. ive got another boyfriend now , ex dosnt no cus ive only been with him a few days and i dont want to rub it in his face cus its harsh but its jsut now confusing me about my new bf cus i think that i shoudl feel guilty finding someone who wouldnt do enthing to hurt me! so is it me being stupid and just selfish or is he just being an *** bascially? any advice would be great im stuck on what to do! thanks! xxxx

Answer 1

he must leave you alone what a saddo man, he should leave you alone

Answer 2

He needs to quit his crying. He ruined his chance with you when he had it. You should just be happy with your new relationship.

Answer 3

tell him you're not into STD's

Answer 4

AVOID him at all costs !

He sounds like a nutter !

Don't tell him anything about your life and if you see him politely say hello and leave.

Answer 5

You seem to have the situation pretty much under control - you are right about your ex. He has made his bed and now he has to lie in it! If he wanted you then he shouldn't have started making advances on other girls. His whole "You said you'd never leave me!" tactic is just cheap emotional blackmail - I mean really, what did he expect??

You are also right to keep your new boyfriend out of his face fro a while - give him some time to get over it on his own because anything you try and do is likely to give him more ammo to get hung up on his self inflicted misfortune.

If you are feeling compassionate/worried that he might actually hurt himself then you might try having a quiet word with one of his friends or a trusted mutual acquaintance to get them to maybe keep an eye on him but make sure it's someone you can trust not to tell him that you have spoken up - he should absolutely NOT find out about your involvement as this can only lead to:

1. He gets upset with you for revealing his pain.

2. He thinks that you still care about him (romantically)

3. He gets paranoid about all his friends and retreats further into himself

4. Any/all of the above.

With that in mind it might be better to carry on as you are but I leave that to your judgement - it seems to be pretty sound.

All the best

Answer 6

Forget your ex... he is just trying to get laid.

Be happy with your new bf and dont let a prick like your ex spoil it.

He is only coming back to you coz he realises that he vant get it elsewhere.

Just tell him to go F**k himself and leave you alone coz you are happy.

Answer 7

! Sweetheart, nooo! You are doing everything just perfectly, your ex just needs to get his egotistical and alpha male ridden head out of his ***. :)

To sum it up, your ex should fall off the face of this planet...speaking in the NICEST way possible, but seriously? he has ALOT to learn if he is going to make it with a girl. I see SO many problems in this:

Problem #1. ASKING A GIRL FOR s*x?! C'mon, that is just...soo sleazy and nasty. Prop to you girl for dumping him on that, and no way should you even CONSIDER taking him back. No girl out there should EVER put up with that sh*t because we ladies deserve SO much better. Its his fault.

Problem #2. MAKING IT YOUR FAULT?! What in the world did he have to back him up on that claim? What could he possibly say to turn the tables on this one? hes the one asking other girls for s*x, not you. and he should understand that what he did was unacceptable and should apologize, not point fingers. Especially at you not leaving...ANY GIRL IN THIS SITUATION SHOULD LEAVE IMMEDIETLY. Honey i know you promised not to leave him, but there is no reason AT ALL why you shouldnt.  again, not your fault.

Problem #3. Bringing you down? If he really loved you and cared about you, hed want you to be happy. But clearly he doesnt. and is making YOU feel bad just cause hes an *ss and cant find a girl that will take him for all the sh*t he does.

now girl, i suggest you stop talking to him at once. really. like i know it might be hard cause hes your ex and everything, but you need to move on and understand that none of this is your fault! hes a di*k and needs to realize he lost something good and cry about it on his own time and not try to bring you down.

good luck sweetheart!

Answer 8

You should just stop talking to him all together, than you don't have to hear about any of the nasty things he has to say to you